What can I do to make a gril see me as something more than a friend?

[Dantee]

Hi there. I'm a new user.

My situation is kinda specific. Let me describe myself first. I'm 25 years old. I'm average-looking. I'm a bit shy (only a little). I'm confident in most situations (but not really when it comes to dating). I don't have a lot of experience with girls (never considered relationships a priority).

I'm crazy about a gril whom I've known for quite some time. She's 24. We went through college together. After college she returned to her home town while I remained in mine. Nowadays we see one another about 4 times a year but we also text one another almost every day. I've had a strong feeling about her right from the begining. The problem was that she had a boyfriend (still has as a matter of fact). Yesterday we met and after a couple of beers she revealed to me that she's probably gonna break up with him due to the fact that she want to be independent.

I wanna be with her so bad but I have 2 problems:
1. I believe that she sees me as nothing more than her friend. I can't explain why I believe it to be true. You would just have to be a part of our conversations to notice this...
2. I can't force myself to tell her that I'm in love with her. It's extremely hard for me to express myself in these kinds of situations. Whenever I'm about to tell her I freeze and can't say anything. It's probably due to the fact that I've been rejected before and I fear that I couldn't handle a rejection from her

It comes down to one simple thing. I can't be friends with her anymore (I need our relationship to be something more). Whenever I think about her I get sad because I know that time is ticking and I might not get a chance to tell her how I feel.

I'm sorry about the lengthy post. Can anyone help me?

[basilandthyme]

Dantee, you're missing the obvious here. She's ending her relationship because she DOESN'T WANT TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP.

I suggest you don't do anything until she's ready to start dating again. And when that happens, don't rush in and declare love to her. You need to take it slow or else you risk scaring her away. Lastly, don't bother doing anything unless you plan on moving near her - long distance is a disaster waiting to happen