Hi.
I've been suffering from retrograde jealousy in my relationship. I have a problem with the fact that she has slept with 30+ men. I have a problem with the fact that she has explored other races sexually.. I have a problem with her casually hooking up with males in the past and I can't seem to shake it.
I've bought and read books on RJ, I've looked around for help and I've come to accept that women are sexual beings, mammals, if you will... I logically understand that I shouldn't have a problem with her past, but every time I think of it, I get an anxious feeling in my stomach and it can drag me pretty far down in a matter of seconds.
I thought I was promiscuous with my 20+ partners but now my girlfriend, who logically should be more prude and reserved sexually (being a woman) as dictated by society...has slept with more than me, and she's not even trying like I was...I can't seem to wrap my head around that fact... I was trying hard to up my number to fit in while she was trying to reserve her body, but ended up with a higher number.....Which is pretty strange because she says she doesn't enjoy casual sex and she has a very hard time having an orgasm even with a boyfriend....
Is there any way to get out of this pattern of thinking COMPLETELY or do I need to cut my losses?
One thing I don't need to hear are angry women judging or debating me in this thread. I'm not making this thread to mock women. I'm making it to get help.