I met my girlfriend (let’s call here Sara) in high school. I was a junior and she was sophomore. Before meeting her, I lived a very sheltered life. I didn’t go out, nor have a large group of friends. I didn’t go to parties or drink. Sara was my first real relationship and my first for a lot of things. She is literally the only person I would talk to. I can honestly say that she loved me and I loved her. But she had emotional issues. They stemmed from her random anxiety from driving, anxiety and fear from getting in trouble with her parents and she said the relationship put a lot of stress of her.
Fast forward about 15 months and things seemed to be going well for us for the past year and half. But then, things started to go downhill this summer. This summer we got into a car accident (her fault) and she constantly blamed herself for almost killing me, even though I came out fine. She was going to college soon at our local university while I attended out community college. We already had plans and she promised we would stay together, and would work out a schedule to make it work.
But then she tells me out of the blue, she can’t be in a serious relationship right now. She tells me, “She doesn’t even care about herself, so she can’t care about someone else.” So right then and there she basically broke up with me, but promised to be friends with me. She tells me not to wait for her and to see other people. But I haven’t even thought or would ever think of that. A week later, I ask to tell her how, I feel and she tells me, “She can’t handle it” but still gives me the opportunity to call her and tell her how I feel. During the phone conversation I tell her how I feel.
Ever since the break up I feel miserable. I get so upset and sad that I can’t eat or sleep. It literally takes hunger pains to set in, so I can eat a pop tart as a meal for the entire day. I have never been so upset in my life. The sadness and grief feels like it is coming from my heart and soul. At work, I get so randomly emotional and sad, I have to take a breather. My eyes have been so red from crying at work that, my bosses started to think I was smoking weed on the job, until I confess they were tears.
She was the only person I talked to. Such a huge part of my life for the past 1.5 years is gone. I now fear isolation and that, I will no longer talk to anyone. Every day, I cry myself to sleep at 2am, only to get up at 5am for work. I don’t understand how she could be okay with this? After, all the hard work, effort, time, money, blood, sweat, and tears, I ask myself why now?
Soon after, my confession with her she tells me, that I am bleeding her dry and she needs some space. It has officially been 6 days since our last contact. She moves into college tomorrow on my birthday. (I’m sorry if my grammar and spelling are off after this, but I’m really emotional typing this) She deleted pictures of us off her instagram and have made no attempts to contact me. I will now be spending my birthday all alone.
As a sit here and cry, I find several reasons why I am upset. First, I fear isolation and being alone. I truly think I won’t find someone else, since I have such a hard time going out, and making friends. Next, the thought of her with someone else makes me sick to my stomach. To the point where I can’t eat for several hours and if I did just eat, I throw it right back up. Then, I upset because such a huge part of my life is just gone.
I need help and I’m serious….. Day by day, I feel myself slipping. The sad part is I know I’m not mentally strong enough for this. One day I will snap……… and that will be a sad day for all of us.