How many men don't cheat even if the girl is attractive?

[BlueMoonSal]

I know that you don't cheat if you're in a long-term relationship or marriage but I'm wondering how many men would manage to suppress that sexual desire and not cheat? Or is it too difficult for them?

I'm going to put a hypothetical situation. Let's say I were in a serious relationship and the man is in a room full of model or female celebrities and one or several are trying to throw themselves at him, will he follow what many would do; give in and cheating (hurting me off course) or will if he loves you will that be so powerful enough for him to still push them off, walked away and try to find me instead (or masturbate)?

[BlueMoonSal]

Or is that urge impossible to control for men that he'll be willing to cheat and hurt the woman he claims to love? I'm guessing that if this was a faithful test, very few would passed it.

[Boisdevie]

I'm going to put a hypothetical situation.

That's just stupid. Some men cheat, some don't. Some of us poor saps even have just enough willpower to resist the temptation to shag anything that comes along. Worried that your BF is out shagging somebody else dear?

[BlueMoonSal]

That's just stupid. Some men cheat, some don't. Some of us poor saps even have just enough willpower to resist the temptation to shag anything that comes along. Worried that your BF is out shagging somebody else dear?

No, I've been single for a long while. I know my ex bf (who is my friend) never cheated but I was just asking.

I've seen enough posts on another site about how men have a harder time controlling this impulse than women and so I wondered how it would be if that were to happen.

But it's good to hear not all will cheat and still say no.

[horndog]

I've seen enough posts on another site about how men have a harder time controlling this impulse than women and so I wondered how it would be if that were to happen.

That's laughable. I had a good friend years ago who was a male dancer/stripper. The guy did a lot of bachelorette parties and had a lot of otherwise "good girls" throw themselves at him. Its not just men that lose control.

[Wakeup]

I know that you don't cheat if you're in a long-term relationship or marriage but I'm wondering how many men would manage to suppress that sexual desire and not cheat? Or is it too difficult for them?

I'm going to put a hypothetical situation. Let's say I were in a serious relationship and the man is in a room full of model or female celebrities and one or several are trying to throw themselves at him, will he follow what many would do; give in and cheating (hurting me off course) or will if he loves you will that be so powerful enough for him to still push them off, walked away and try to find me instead (or masturbate)?

This is a scenerio that has much more to do about his personal boundaries, morals and convictions then it has to do with loving you.

I'm guessing that if this was a faithful test, very few would passed it.

What type of men do you hang out with that you'd have developed such a piss poor view of all of them in general?

[michelle23]

look at his behaviour single. if hes the type to regularly sleep around, nsa, fear of committment, regular one night stands etc then yes hes likely to cheat at some point unless he has some major epiphany. to normal guys who dont spend their lives chasing skirt-its easy to say no. I know men who have resisted a naked girl on his bed trying to seduce him. one was single and said no coz she wasnt. the other was not impressed with her behaviour and seduction technique and threw her out saying "if i had a van full of them, i wouldnt give you one" (penises).

believe it or not but many men want a proper relationship and dont go looking for "just sex". my bf is one of them-never had a ons even though he had loads of opportunities. even when single, he turned down plenty of girls

[Hightower]

Been with my wife 7 years (5 married) and never cheated. Never wanted to either. I respect her a lot, love her a lot, am IN love with her and lust her like crazy as if I'm a teenager in the backseat of a car. In the bad relationships I was in I still never cheated even though they were turbulent relationships. I just am not the type. I also love my family as well and don't want to risk losing my wife, or our son.

One thing I am good at is outwardly showing this to other people. People that know me or talk to me can tell I am a stand up guy. I pride myself in honesty. I talk about my wife in a good light, people see this and a girl is less likely to pursue you if you are in a happy marriage without any cracks. Girls can pick up the vibe of a guy who is overly friendly for the wrong reasons.

What would I do if a woman propositioned me? Well for starters, this isn't a porn movie and a girl isn't going to just strip off to nothing and beg you for sex. You have to have gotten yourself in a compromising position in the first place. A good guy won't do that to begin with.

So yeah, there are us guys out there that realize what they have right now, and not when it's too late and will cherish it.

[HDBadger]

I'm 31 and I've never cheated. I've never come close.

When you're with someone you want to be with, it's not an issue.

[Idainaru]

Im 27, in RL for 9 years. I have never cheated, and i never will. I will rather break up and be with someone else if i have such need to be with someone else. Even now in LDR with many problems i rather chose to work on my RL and to go beyond my limits. I had many oportunities to cheat her with attractive girls but i didnt, i show them im not that kind of a guy and thats it. It depends on person, not gender.

[polemikos]

The OP was talking about "model or female celebrities" and since this is a purely hypothetical scenario I am going to join in. If this were her:

Then yes, I'd prolly cheat. Sorry, I'm shallow like that. I mean come on. Are you going to tell me that you ladies if faced with a famous movie star of your picking WOULDN'T cheat, or at least be sorely tempted, I mean please, this is a hypothetical exorcize were talking about here. If Brad Pitt came up and said he had to have you, you would say:

“Nope, I'm in a committed relationship and I wouldn't do that to my partner!”

I'm just not not buying it.

Guys, look at her, I mean look at her real hard, and say that if she threw herself at you, as the OP suggested, as preposterous as that is, you would turn her down, committed or not.

[YoungCosmo]

That girl is ugly.

[Idainaru]

The OP was talking about "model or female celebrities" and since this is a purely hypothetical scenario I am going to join in. If this were her:

Then yes, I'd prolly cheat. Sorry, I'm shallow like that. I mean come on. Are you going to tell me that you ladies if faced with a famous movie star of your picking WOULDN'T cheat, or at least be sorely tempted, I mean please, this is a hypothetical exorcize were talking about here. If Brad Pitt came up and said he had to have you, you would say:

“Nope, I'm in a committed relationship and I wouldn't do that to my partner!”

I'm just not not buying it.

Guys, look at her, I mean look at her real hard, and say that if she threw herself at you, as the OP suggested, as preposterous as that is, you would turn her down, committed or not.

Ok seriously!??

Ofcourse we might get tempted, attracted and everything....but not all of us are PIGS! No one said here "would you be attracted", the question was "would you cheat". And NO, i would not cheat! This is something that differs me from animals! My thinking and my choice!

Same thing i would expect from my girlfriend too with Brad S...tt! She can be attracted, but she cant cheat. If she cheats, she would be slut, no matter who is in front of her...simply dont care!

And P.S. this whole thing with models and actors...they are not the prettiest people in world. There are more attractive "real life" people around us everyday!

[polemikos]

That girl is ugly.

Well you're clearly in the minority where that is concerned. But to each their own. Some people like sheep YC. Who would you consider beautiful?

[polemikos]

Ok seriously!??

Ofcourse we might get tempted, attracted and everything....but not all of us are PIGS! No one said here "would you be attracted", the question was "would you cheat". And NO, i would not cheat! This is something that differs me from animals! My thinking and my choice!

Same thing i would expect from my girlfriend too with Brad S...tt! She can be attracted, but she cant cheat. If she cheats, she would be slut, no matter who is in front of her...simply dont care!

And P.S. this whole thing with models and actors...they are not the prettiest people in world. There are more attractive "real life" people around us everyday!

Clearly I've said something unpopular. Well I don't think it makes me a pig. I think it's true. I think when faced with the object of their fascination most folks would cheat, especially if they thought they could get away with it. I have stated outright that I would have sex with Olivia Wilde extra maritally, so what, big deal. My wife is aware of this and we both have a list of free passes. Not that it matters. Neither of us will ever have a chance to make good on it. It was an exercise that we found liberating and educational about what each of us found sexy.

But that makes me a pig clearly.