Why do you men string women along?

**Wakeup** · 25-09-13, 03:14 AM

Originally Posted by Nicki XoXo

Do you have children? If so, you must be a dead beat dad. If not, then you don't understand my point. Any man with children could never only support their kids financially and think that's okay to not be a part of their lives. Asshole.

You're the asshole. And... to top it all off, you tried to secure a legitimate relationship with a cheating asshole by forgoing your birth control and that didn't even work. What will it take for you to own up to your own mistakes?

**dickriculous** · 25-09-13, 05:07 AM

Anyone need a hug?

**smackie9** · 25-09-13, 06:04 AM

Saying he should doesn't mean it's going to happen.....it's a matter of personal choice. Them's the breaks.

**smackie9** · 25-09-13, 06:05 AM

Originally Posted by dickriculous

Anyone need a hug?

I need a beer.....

**HeartIsAching** · 25-09-13, 02:03 PM

Originally Posted by searock

I think she's right on that part, though. The father of the child should be in the child's life, no matter how complicated the situation with the mother is. It's his son, he should be there for him. He's as responsible as she is, the child shouldn't have to pay for his parents' immaturity and mistakes.

Nikki, as for anything else, your married man and his family owe you NOTHING at all. It's incredible how you actually expected things to go differently. How can you be so naive?!

"Should be" and "Obligated to be" are two different things.

**searock** · 25-09-13, 04:01 PM

Originally Posted by HeartIsAching

"Should be" and "Obligated to be" are two different things.

Well, morally he is obligated (IMO of course), legally he isn't. Considering what an asshole he is, it doesn't surprise me he isn't going to be there for his child. Poor baby, he's got two crazy parents!

**basilandthyme** · 25-09-13, 06:50 PM

I see where you're going Searock, but I'm not even convinced that he's morally obligated. I have real issues with women having full reproductive choice and a man having no choice whatsoever.

**searock** · 25-09-13, 07:40 PM

Originally Posted by basilandthyme

I see where you're going Searock, but I'm not even convinced that he's morally obligated. I have real issues with women having full reproductive choice and a man having no choice whatsoever.

But he never even tried to convince her to have an abortion - he actually acted all encouraging and caring during her pregnancy (at least according to what OP told us).

Also, unless she tricked him and let him believe that she was using oral contraceptives when in fact she wasn't (I wouldn't put it past her), he has the same responsibility for the beginning of the pregnancy as she does.

**basilandthyme** · 25-09-13, 08:07 PM

Originally Posted by searock

But he never even tried to convince her to have an abortion - he actually acted all encouraging and caring during her pregnancy (at least according to what OP told us).

from OPs post dated 26 Feb 13

>>I was pregnant a couple of years ago and I terminated my pregnancy, which was his idea. I still regret my decision and i feel bad. It was hard for me to forgive myself. He wants me to do it again I think but I cant. I wont. I hate him for denying our babies. <<

He made it clear from the start that he didn't want a child with her. She knew from way back then that it would be an uphill battle.

**searock** · 25-09-13, 08:16 PM

Oh, I missed that post, thanks for quoting it. In that case, I still think he's an asshole but I can see why most of you are saying he has no obligations to be part of the child's life. It's so sad for the child to have been born from such a stupid mother and such an asshole father. I hope he has grandparents or aunts/uncles that are decent persons and are willing to take care of him (even though they certainly aren't obligated to do so).

**smackie9** · 25-09-13, 11:13 PM

He's not an asshole, he's an idiot for not wearing a damn condom. If he doesn't want kids then he should get a vasectomy.....

**Wakeup** · 25-09-13, 11:14 PM

He is so an asshole... but he's also an idiot.

**smackie9** · 25-09-13, 11:16 PM

Rules: #1 Never trust a man that cheats on his wife/GF.

#2 Never trust a woman.

**searock** · 25-09-13, 11:17 PM

Originally Posted by smackie9

#2 Never trust a woman.

Talk about internalized sexism... *eyeroll*

**Starnique** · 25-09-13, 11:38 PM

I think he does have an obligation to his child. Forget about the circumstances. If you have a baby with someone, yes you are legally financially responsible for them. Imo, any man or woman should also feel an obligation to be there financially and emotionally for their kids. Both are equally responsible. You can't just say, im married so I will financially be there but im not going to be a part of the kids life. Yes, h has choice but its not acceptable and it doesn't make it right. It's not about anybody else. You break up with people not kids.

Nicki, you shouldn't expect for his wife to accept this. If my husbands mistress ho came in my face with that bullshit, i'll probably walk you like the bitch (female dog) that you are. You need to stay in your lane.

I do think that he should have a relationship with the kid and he is morally responsible. He can keep it seperate but still be there and be a good father. I don't get how people can have a kid and not be there as if they don't exist.

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