Giving Space

[BlueRoseMusical]

We're not talking so much anymore because of our schedules, and I do want us to talk bunches again.

I did a lot of thinking, and maybe I have to give him space. Question is, do I talk this over with him and let him know that I'm thinking about doing it, or should I just do it with no warning?
And if I do do it, how long do I do it for?

[lalalita]

I doubt it's entirely because of your schedules. Men who want to want to talk bunches to their woman, find time. My guy works 10 to 12 hour work days every day, and I hear from him more than I have heard from any man. He finds time to communicate because it is important to him.

If he's not reaching out, giving him space may work temporarily, but he will almost always go back to whatever is hard wired in him. Also, giving him space without discussing it with him first, and not getting the reaction you want, is going to make you feel more awful.

[HeartIsAching]

I doubt it's entirely because of your schedules. Men who want to want to talk bunches to their woman, find time. My guy works 10 to 12 hour work days every day, and I hear from him more than I have heard from any man. He finds time to communicate because it is important to him.

If he's not reaching out, giving him space may work temporarily, but he will almost always go back to whatever is hard wired in him. Also, giving him space without discussing it with him first, and not getting the reaction you want, is going to make you feel more awful.

This is absolutely true. My wife and I worked opposite schedules - she'd stop by on her way home from work at midnight, and visit me when I took my first break. I'd call her at lunch (she'd still be up doing homework), and talk. You make time if you're interested.

[basilandthyme]

What do you think giving him space will achieve?

Given your previous threads about this relationship, I'm thinking a breakup may be a better choice.

[4 ratties]

I've read your other posts. I really don't think things are going to get better. I hate to be a downer but I'm going to give my advice.. I understand that you get upset and feel unspecial when he doesn't text you very much, doesn't say pet names anymore, doesn't say I love you first. Then when you get together, you forget about all that and have a great time. That's why this is hard for you to break up with him. If you really want to deal with this for years to come then that's what makes u happy but I don't see things changing.

[BlueRoseMusical]

I'm putting breaking up as a last resort. I really do want to try to work things out. Good thing we're hanging out tomorrow, cuz then I'm going to let him know how this makes me feel and then I'm proposing a few ideas to try to get communication going again (make a time almost if not every day when both of us are free to talk. if that doesn't work then we try where whenever we have a few spare moments we send each other messages to let the other know we're thinking about each other).
As for adjusting to the busy schedule, is there a way to make it easier for me to get used to it?