Hi all, so i have posted on here a while ago explaining the situation with a friend of mine and myself having a very close relationship over the last few years which ended with us both saying we had strong feelings for each other which went on for a while after that. All through she had a boyfriend, split up now back together. They didn't have the best relationship, and I was told by her on many times during the split how she hated him etc for what he did. They got back together after she said he had contacted her everyday until the met up and talked and got back together at the start of the year, even after that it wasn't perfect and at one point she told me they both knew it won't last but she wanted him to break it off. They apparently had a conversation and now are wonderfully happy again. During al this time it was his birthday and we were all out together (I am friends with him but not a close friend by any means) during the night out for his birthday she was trying to get me to wear something in a certain way and when I wouldn't she said 'when your mine I'll convince you' they argued that night and I was the one she car to then the next day all wonderful.
This was the point I knew what I had to do and cut contact and move one. I went too a relationship councillor to help me deal with things as I wil admit I have never felt this strongly for someone. Over the last few months I have worked on it and the contact has dropped dramatically from contact everyday and her coming round every other night to only seeing her once or twice in the last few months, she contacts me once a week/fortnight and have a little text chat, has called me a few times when she has been out etc. She says she is gutted by what has happened but I have to look after myself which is still very hard. I need to have the chat were I say we have to cut contact let each other go etc but really don't know how to do it. As all the while I'm so upset of what I have lost as she was such a huge part of my life and she's not anymore. She has been contacting me a bit more recently. We saw each other at the weekend as she wanted to meet up so I thought i would give it a try, turned out I can't do it, her boyfriend is in the navy so lives away and comes back every other weekend, he was back when we spent the day together and I think they had a falling out and she wanted someone to talk to, not about them but other issues with friends she had, plus wanted some advice on phones etc which i get the feeling she doesn't get from the boyfriend.
They then as usual made up ad all ;great 'again'. She saw a friend of mine last night in the cinema when she was with her boyfriend and as I hadn't got back to my friend she was worried I was ok so was texting me when they got out saying just checking I was ok, hope I sleep well etc which felt a bit odd as she would of been ith her boyfriend. he goes away for a few months this weekend so going to be hard because I think she will be in contact so I have to say something otherwise she come to me for everything while he is away then it will all stop when he gets back and I'll be hurt again.
Anyway I thank anyone for reading this as I just needed to get some of it out, It's so upsetting as I'm not getting over it and I'm not expecting anyone to give me a quick fix I'm just maybe after some advice as I can't talk to many people about it as most of my friends know both of them and it would be awful if this got out.
Thanks in advance