Guy friend said he likes me but... (SHORT) PLZZZ HELP :(

[mee]

Hi guys im new here.anyway,me and ted are both 20 yr old,in college.my parents don't allow me to date anyone,NEITHER HIS(society and religious reasons.)but i have been in a relationship with Neil who was abusive so i broke up with him last year,it ended badly after breakup ted(mutual friend) became more close friend to me but then he disappeared for months.Now he reappeared and is still a good friend & was sweet to me but started flirting with me,complimenting me & finally said "i likes u".few days later he said"i was going to propose you(to be his gf)but then i thought i don't want to disappoint your family and you".After that he is hot and cold.one side he is sweet to me,compliments me on my nature,my hair,my clothes,you are so beautiful.etc my hair ,texts first & daily.other side he (2 times ) disappeared for weeks,act criticizing like lose weight,don't apply make up,don't wear high heels or hairbands,the way i walk,etc.both times after reappearing he apologized as i tell him he did wrong and said and last time he also said"why should i forget you? no never ever in my life for God sake! i like u dear,i missed you etc". i like him but i'm confused if he wants a relationship or not? if he doesn't want because of our families then why can't he just act normal ?

[basilandthyme]

Mee, forget about what he wants. Figure out what YOU want. Do you want a man who's loving one minute and overly critical the next? Personally, I think you'd be crazy to accept a man who treats you like this.