My-Best-friend's-Wedding Syndrome

[CharlieJayne]

Hope you can help.
I'm 20 years old and have worked as an escort for a year. I put an end to my job in August and have recently started a new relationship. I have chosen to be completely honest and open with my new partner (Wes, age 31) about my previous means of income and it turns out, we have a lot more in common than we first thought. Wes' previous partner was also a 'Working Girl' and he really appreciated my honesty in telling him my big secret. It has become apparent as the weeks have passed that Wes is currently still a little more involved with the escorting industry than I had realised.
Before our relationship began, Wes was using a dating website to meet women. He received a message from a woman called Sarah who was interested in him. He tells me that he was not attracted to Sarah in the slightest and so their relationship has continued for the past 3 or 4 months on an entirely platonic basis. Sarah is also a current 'Working Girl' and my partner refuses to let me talk to/meet/see a picture of Sarah in case we know each other through the industry.
Although Wes insists that the relationship he has with Sarah is nothing more than friendship, they send each other texts all day everyday and when they are not texting, they are spending hours talking on the phone together. He also always leaves the room to be away from me when she calls and if he cannot leave the room to get away from me he won't answer her calls. My partner's job is a professional singer; he performs at clubs and pubs around the region on Saturday and Sunday nights. Last Sunday he had a gig at a club near to where Sarah lives so she turned up to see him. His gig finished at 11.30pm and I didn't hear from him for a further 2 hours. He eventually sent me a text message explaining that he was at Sarah's having a drink and that they had ordered a Chinese takeaway (his treat.) It came to light the following day that my partner had spent the night with Sarah and had went out the following day for meal with Sarah and her friend.
The constant texting and phone calls have continued as usual between the two of them which has really started to concern me.
Last night before my partner went to work, I overheard him on the phone to Sarah asking where she was working from that evening (as an escort.) She told him and whilst my partner was at work I started to look for her profile on an Escorting website for an agency I believe she works for. When my partner returned from work he continued to talk about Sarah almost non-stop. Telling me what she was doing, where she was etc... He later told me that she wants to take him out for a meal on Tuesday night and asked how I felt about it as he may feel concerned if the shoe was on the other foot. They had been out previously for meals and so I didn't feel like I had any right to give my opinion this time. After this I confessed that I had looked online for Sarah's profile to which he became very angry. He asked me why I had looked and if it was because I didn't trust him or didn't trust her. I told him I was just curious but he didn't believe me. He seemed to get more frustrated with me and told me that I was sly and sneaky and that he never wanted me to "go snooping ever again as that's when trouble is caused." This left me feeling incredibly guilty and, in his words "Sly." I didn't say much to him after that incident that night.
There have also been previous incidents which have made me feel uncomfortable. For example, Sarah has asked Wes if he would accompany her to get a piercing on her genitals. A request I believe to be outrageous. Wes did ask me what my thoughts would be and if I would mind and I expressed my discomfort. He did not get angry on this occasion and the subject was dropped, however it is a topic I am still increasingly unhappy about.
I constantly feel like Cameron Diaz's Character in 'My Best Friend's Wedding'! He thinks so highly of Sarah and doesn't have a bad word to say about her. (Other than her appearance which he apparently dislikes) He seems to have her on a pedestal and I feel like I'll never be as good as her. I don't want to tell Wes who to talk to or when, or who he can and can't be friends with however, I can't help but think that they are both overstepping the mark a little?
Am I right with my opinions or am I being completely paranoid and worrying unnecessarily?
Help!?
Charlie.

[Valixy]

Obviously he's playing you. It is total lack of respect and manipulation what he's doing. I personally believe that a guy who he has been able to go so far in the first months of a relationship isn't worth giving him any more time or attention. Leave him before he messes up your life more even more. You'll appreciate it later.

[bluenote99]

a horrible situation and closely related to the one i'm in at the moment,hate to say it but you have every reason to be suspicious as the bond between your partner and this other girl seems quite strong,it all comes down to trust really if you can honestly say you trust and believe in him when he says their relationship is platonic then good luck to you and i hope it works out