Need Help. Don't Know What To Do.

**BarreBabyy** · 16-10-13, 04:15 AM

Hello, I have been with my current boyfriend for about 2 years now. We meet on Xbox Live back in April of 2012. He lived in Texas when I met him; I live in Maryland. So as many may see this as odd, We continued to talk online and webcam. Shortly after that he decided to come see me in Maryland. Yes, I know it sounds like Catfish; but he was real. He then stayed at my house for 10 days and then went back to Texas. He then moved to Maryland a month afterwards. Anyways; he is 30 and I am turning 21; Well, I again have been talking to someone on Xbox, who has been one of my close friends for awhile now. I would have never thought our friendship to become more that it is. Well while talking to my friend on Xbox I have realized that he has more in common and actually understands me more than my current boyfriend does. It blows my mind that someone could actually understand me the way my friend does. He is 17 and lives in Indiana. He is also friends with my current boyfriend on Xbox; but he doesn't really like my boyfriend because he has fallen in love with me. I am not sure what to do because I feel like I am in love with him but yet I am with my current boyfriend and I don't know what to do. I love my boyfriend but there is something between my friend and I that is hard to explain. My friend and I have had a cyber relationship for about 6 months now. We do webcam and we talking all the time and I can actually talk to him about anything and he doesn't judge me and I think his love for me is pure and we aren't making things sexual at all because he wants to have a pure relationship with me before we get intimate. I am planning on seeing him soon; but I am still unsure what I should do about my boyfriend, since I am clearly in love with my friend. Please help. -B

**basilandthyme** · 16-10-13, 04:50 AM

BarreBabyy, even though I spend a lot of time online, I have a strict "no close male online friends" policy. Why? It has the potential to turn into an emotional affair and it disrespectful to my current partner. In short, it has the potential to explode just as your experience has shown.

I suggest you stop having these cyber friendships and focus on your real boyfriend. If things aren't working out with him, then end it. But don't leap frog around randoms you meet on the Xbox.

**BarreBabyy** · 16-10-13, 04:53 AM

I understand; this is the first instance that has ever happen. The way I feel for my boyfriend and the way I feel for my friend are completely different. But you advice it helpful.

**bluenote99** · 16-10-13, 04:56 AM

i agree with the last poster have a really good think about whether you're happy with your current boyfriend, if there are issues with him consider whether you think enough of him to work through them, if when you've considered things you decide its not going to work out with your boyfriend then be honest with him, bring things to an end and then you'll be free to try things out with the new guy, your current situation is not very fair on him

**BarreBabyy** · 16-10-13, 04:58 AM

I know, the thing is that my boyfriend doesn't even act like a boyfriend should. There is no affection or passion at all. He acts more like a room mate that sleeps with me then a boyfriend. I know that doesn't justify my relationship with my friend online, but how can you be in a relationship without that spark or passion?

**bluenote99** · 16-10-13, 05:03 AM

Originally Posted by BarreBabyy

I know, the thing is that my boyfriend doesn't even act like a boyfriend should. There is no affection or passion at all. He acts more like a room mate that sleeps with me then a boyfriend. I know that doesn't justify my relationship with my friend online, but how can you be in a relationship without that spark or passion?

well i think deep down then you know your current relationship is a non starter, sounds like you've become friends rather than boyfriend/girlfriend you need to speak with him about it, find out if there is a possibility of reigniting your spark and if not part as friends leaving you free and without guilt to pursue another relationship

**BackUpOrGetStng** · 16-10-13, 05:20 AM

Tell the guy in Texas not to move to Maryland to be with your retarded ass.

**DalM0m** · 16-10-13, 10:24 AM

No matter what, don't go anywhere near the 17 year old & do not have any sexy talk with him until he turns 18.

If you think you want out of your relationship, it's only fair that you break up with your BF before you start a new relationship.

**4 ratties** · 16-10-13, 01:17 PM

Break up with your boyfriend. You've already been cheating on him with this emotional affair. You've turned away from him completly and talk to this other guy more than him. No wonder there is no spark. Your hiding so much from him. Quit wasting his time.

**Boisdevie** · 16-10-13, 02:03 PM

Originally Posted by BarreBabyy

I know, the thing is that my boyfriend doesn't even act like a boyfriend should. There is no affection or passion at all. He acts more like a room mate that sleeps with me then a boyfriend. I know that doesn't justify my relationship with my friend online, but how can you be in a relationship without that spark or passion?

If it's not working with your BF then end the relationship you idiot. It's not rocket surgery.

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