New boyfriend hardly wants sex HELP!

[worriednotsure]

I have been officially dating my new bf for nearly 3 months and he hardly wants sex. I would love it 1-2 times per week (at least) and he wants it once every 2-3 weeks. Weve discussed it and he says he just doesnt have the sex drive anymore (hes 29, me 25) and ive explained I need it more and he just wont budge. I think its a problem with me and its completely killing my self confidence. Someone said that as he is balding it might simply be his sex drive. He is very affectionate otherwise and tells me he loves me a lot.

Any thoughts, advice, insight? Please help!

[Boisdevie]

I always thought baldness was a sign of high testosterone so that's not the real reason. It sounds like the real reason is your sexually incompatible and it's nothing to do with his age. I'm 49 and I'd shag every day given the chance.
This problem will not go away and it won't get better. If he's not giving you much sex now do you really imagine that things will magically improve - they won't. Dump him and find somebody more compaibtle.

[michelle23]

Break up with him. Your not compatable. You should be at it like rabbits everyday in the honeymoon period. Soon itl be once every 3months, then once a year. F that. Just leave

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[worriednotsure]

I really like this guy though. I wish I could help him sort out these issues. What about a supplement to help his sex drive? Or maybe hes cheating on me?

[michelle23]

You cant change him. This is a major red flag. I doubt hes cheating-he just has a low sex drive (some people do and you cant change that). Whats a supplement gonna do? Unless its viagra its not gonna change much..

There could be loads of reasons y: depressed, stressed, medication, low testosterone, erectile dysfunction, anxiety, secretly gay, addicted to porn, your not his type etc etc...

But its not your problem and why should you try to fix it. Just walk away. This wont get any better

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[worriednotsure]

In terms of supplement I meant something like horny goats weed, helps to increase your sex drive. But I cant really suggest that to him.

[michelle23]

Ya and it might work for a few weeks till he gets used to it and it has no effect.. either stay in a sexless relationship or leave. Me and my bf are together 5 years and we have sex 4-5 times a week.. sometimes more and weve been doing at least 3 times since the beginning when we both still lived with parents..

Once every 3 weeks 3 months in can only get worse

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[worriednotsure]

Id love it that often! I try explaining how much this bothers me and he wont budge or even try. Maybe you're right

[michelle23]

This is the way he is. You cant force him to have more sex. The next guy will be all over you like a rash and youll be happier. I think its time to give up. Sexual compatability is important if you want it to last as well as other thinngs

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[Rowen]

I agree with Michelle. Move on because the two of you are incompatible if this is such a massive issue for you. Sex should be mutual and fun; if he would give you sex more often, it'd be only because he feels like he has to- not that he wants to.

For example, there are times when I'll try to put the moves on the guy I'm dating. But in the end, if he doesn't respond, I'm respectful of that. You can't MAKE someone want to have sex with you, and you really shouldn't try. If you put it out there and they don't respond, that should be the end of it until another time. Continuing to push will only create more problems.

[worriednotsure]

You are definitely right about it creating more problems. I guess ill give it some more time and see if I can be happy and accept how he is. If that doesnt work I guess we wont either.

[michelle23]

You are definitely right about it creating more problems. I guess ill give it some more time and see if I can be happy and accept how he is. If that doesnt work I guess we wont either.

Thats called settling for second best. Look up infatuation. When that infatuation wears thin youll be sorry you didnt leave sooner

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[Rowen]

Thats called settling for second best. Look up infatuation. When that infatuation wears thin youll be sorry you didnt leave sooner

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Completely agree ^

Don't settle for what you want. Go out and get it!

[worriednotsure]

I wish it was that easy but I do love this guy. I couldnt walk away without trying.

[michelle23]

Ok its your choice but just remember its not gonna get any better

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