I need to ask you guys this, I'll be short, hopefully!
What if your ex girlfriend from couple of years ago just sent you a facebook request and you immediately contacted her and asked her out?
What if that girl was some chick who dumped you over a text and never talked to you again or even said hi once you met randomly? No one cheated on anbody, I was just too young 19 years old and I disapeared from this guy, eventhought everything was going really well. He wanted to stay in touch once in a while for the next year or two since I left him, but I ignored him, thought it was the best.
So if someone was so mean to you, well I can't say mean, but such immature person who just vanished from the face of the earth one day when everything was perfect, why would you ask her out after all these years on a date? Nobody does that, right?
I want to ask you why would someone do this? Love??? Was I that girl, who some guys never get over?
A friend who I haven't seen for months ask me whats going on in my life? I told her thisn story and that I'm dating my ex, casualy. Her reply was:" OMG, OMG, he must really love you and he must be really crazy about you all these years!!! This is so great, when you hurt someone's ego so much, no one would want to see you unless he never got over you and loves you!!!!"
We date again, I never stopped caring for him, actually I am crazy about him, I think its mutual.
So, you ask probably what is the problem, why am I posting this? Well, the problem is that this guy told me he doesn't want serious relationship right now in general! I told him no to that, because I said I liked him and that I'll get hurt. I almost blew him off after those 4 dates (we didn't have sex by our 5th date, I mean we never did it and we were in a relationship for couple of months when we were kids)
But silly me I thought about it, so when he contacted me after our talk, I went for it We had sex, it was great! I thought this was going to be just sexual relatinship or whatever, I could handle that, but I can't handle this right now, because he is acting strange, I never initiated any of these situations I'll write below, I'm playing it cool (and I'm not cool, Its hard to act calmed, when I really like him more then a friend)
Here are the things:
He is the one who initiates stuff all the time, all the stuff. I lay back and wait for him to text me, ask me out to hang out or whatever. I think I might be a bit cold with him when we comunicate virtually or whatever, but I don't want to rush things, its hard to play it cool and showing I'm interested into him at the same time, but I manage it. I just don't wanna bother him with boring texts, I'm not that kind of a girl.
When we have sex, we spend time after it couple of hours more then we should and we talk about everything
He is telling me stuff about himself all the time, stuff you just don't share with everybody, personal things
We talk everyday, he always asks me how I am, what am I doing or whatever.
He shares always infos like where is he going, what is he doing with who and I never ask him anything about this stuff, I don't care much (I mean I do, but we are not in a relationship he doesn't need to tell me all those stuff)
He never wants to talk about sex, when I tell him some joke or initiate talk about sex in a fun way out of nowhere, he replies, but he immediately backs off, so I stop! I mean since we are doing it and hooking up for doing it, why on earth you don't want to discuss it.
Last time I saw him, when we talked about everything, even our exes (he initiated this subject spontaneously, not me) he told me stuff about a few girls who just were hitting on him, who were wild or whatever, who made a first move on him. He didn't say he didn't like that, well since he was with some of them, but the thing is that he said that he doesn't want to be with some wild chick that he wants someone who is a bit more normal, not wild or some controll freaks. Well, I'm that kind of a girl, normal one. I didn't comment much that, basiclly I didn't say anything at all, I was just listening.
But from the guy who told me who will never settle down with someone, after this talk he suddenly said that he wants normal person to be with, but not yet.
I am bloody confused with him, really confused. I'm just mostly replying to him when we text, make some funny jokes, listen to him, don't comment much, I'm hot and cold on moments and I'm scared to let go and show him my emotions and go for this guy. I don't know how to act around him or what to do. I thought we were just having sex, not haning out or become BFFs.
I like him a lot, I don't know if I should be all nice, warm, charming all the time and just let it go, initiate things first, ask him out to hang out and do something else then to have sex, I mean we started going on a dates in public all the time. Last few times I was at his house.
Opinions? What does he want from me? I'm not sure that he is using me just for sex, because he is not acting like he does, since I'm not showing all my emotions, he doesn't know I'm that crazy or into him, so he could act cold as me, instead he is not, he is really caring, apologising always and stuff.