*Sorry for the long explanation*
I have been dating my boyfriend for a year and we recently got engaged. I love him with all my heart but I have a problem with the fact that he does not satisfy me sexually. More so he doesn't seem to care...
When we first got together I explained to him that I have a high sex drive, I had never been able to explore my full sexual desires due to the past relationships I were in, the guys generally being jerks. I was single for 2 years before this relationship during this time I met a guy who at the time I thought wanted a relationship, but ended up he was just into the physical. But our sexual relationship. Why is this relevant? For the first time I was having orgasms and enjoying sex...so I know what my body is capable of and I wanted to continue to enjoy and explore (obviously I have not told my fianc�e this justification just that I have a high sex drive)
Sex generally lasts about 10 minutes if were lucky. This is due to the way he has sex. He doesn't do slow or intimate it is just pounding very fast and then he comes and goes to sleep. I have spoken with him about it many times from various different angles.
Some examples of the issues:
Kissing neck and intimate parts.....he bites me with his teeth. I explained that it hurts and turns me off instantly but he still does it.
Kissing the cookie....he is either going in a million directions at once. Or he does it with no feeling just for about 40 secs to get me wet so he can penetrate.
Sex....it is completely silent. He rests all his weight on me. It is so fast and so quick that I cant feel it well enough to enjoy it. No other positions just same old stuff.
Turning me on = grabbing my intimate parts or rubbing his "P" against my bum. Which do not turn me on and I have explained this. There is no hugging, no kissing no sexy talking.
Now I know what your thinking, just explain... but I have tried. From writing down what I like....how to touch me.....how to make love to me.....talking dirty. I have shown him by getting him to agree to let me lead him through what feels good. explaining step by step whilst he did it. I have taken the lead and shown him. Tried to suggest books or techniques we can do so it lasts longer. But he tries it that one time I show him and then that's it. He goes back to the way he did it before, if I bring it up then he moans and tells me that I'm nagging him. That he tried it so he doesn't understand why I am complaining. Which has left me now not wanting to have sex at all.
Before he met me he drank a lot, so I suspect this has a lot to do with his lasting issues. Which causes me issues as I can no longer do foreplay on him as if I touch him or try "O" then he finishes before we even get started.
Please help me with some advice I don't know what else I can do....