Crazy Email

[LoveCanHurt]

Dating Sites can sure be crazy it seems now a days...
Story thus far---
He had winked and I winked back...Then over the next week he was liking various pictures of mine on an almost daily basis so I wrote twice, once thanking him for all the likes the second, wondering if he was real.
Second got a response and this was his response. "I am real. It is hard to explain but I'm in a relationship right now but it doesn't seem to be working out soo-o-o-o??? I think I will be free in a week?"
Then crazily we are in this email jag where I have told him that he needs to be honest with not only himself, but that other person...Break it now even if the holiday season is coming on.....(Stopped writing back 2 days ago)
I feel like a home wrecker...while he keeps trying to justify his actions...putting most of the blame on the woman, the shortness of the relationship thus far, and her talking him into bed after only two dates....
Even though he just recently lost his spouse last year, we are in our 60s and I feel there is really no excuse for what he is doing.
Guess I don't want to be the next one he uses until something better comes along.
Am being wrong with telling him, that even if he finally breaks off with the lady we cannot be a match??
Any input from anyone out there???

[3mK]

You are getting these warning signs now. I'd be concerned. What's next, right?

[basilandthyme]

Am being wrong with telling him, that even if he finally breaks off with the lady we cannot be a match??
Any input from anyone out there???

You have zero obligation to date him: You can change your mind for a good reason, a bad reason or no reason at all. In this case, I think you'd be crazy to ignore your gut feeling.

[Boisdevie]

God almighty. She's stressing over this dipshit and she hasn't even met him in real life yet. Just ignore the ****er and he'll go away.

[TheEvilJester]

I think you need to follow your instincts on this one. If he is in a relationship, no matter if he thinks it is going well or not, he should not be checking people out on a dating site. Even more so, he shouldn't be trying to pick up gals by telling them he is in a relationship, but thinks it is going to be over in a few weeks. Nor should he be bad-mouthing a current girlfriend to people he doesn't even really know.

But.... hey.... at least he is honest. You have to give him that. LOL! ....Though, if you think about it, he is going behind his girlfriend's back and looking for other women to date before he has even ended his current relationship... so maybe I take that back.

Anyway, follow your instincts here. You don't want to be just the next gal he dates while he looks for whatever else may be out there.

[Wakeup]

Dating Sites can sure be crazy it seems now a days...
Story thus far---
He had winked and I winked back...Then over the next week he was liking various pictures of mine on an almost daily basis so I wrote twice, once thanking him for all the likes the second, wondering if he was real.
Second got a response and this was his response. "I am real. It is hard to explain but I'm in a relationship right now but it doesn't seem to be working out soo-o-o-o??? I think I will be free in a week?"
Then crazily we are in this email jag where I have told him that he needs to be honest with not only himself, but that other person...Break it now even if the holiday season is coming on.....(Stopped writing back 2 days ago)
I feel like a home wrecker...while he keeps trying to justify his actions...putting most of the blame on the woman, the shortness of the relationship thus far, and her talking him into bed after only two dates....
Even though he just recently lost his spouse last year, we are in our 60s and I feel there is really no excuse for what he is doing.
Guess I don't want to be the next one he uses until something better comes along.
Am being wrong with telling him, that even if he finally breaks off with the lady we cannot be a match??
Any input from anyone out there???

Just stop talking to him altogether. You owe him NOTHING at this point and at this point, he's cheating on this girl if he's trying to pull other women in before he lets her go. Do you really want a guy like that.. obviously you do not or you wouldn't come to a site full of strangers to get their opinion. What you've come here for is to get validation that you owe him nothing and that he's not a good match for you. Well, you're getting it from me because he is not good relationship material if he's with someone and pre-meditately setting himself (and you) up to cheat.

Next him and don't feel guilty about doing it.

[michelle23]

Lol this is a stranger on the internet. You have no obligation. You will meet a LOT of weirdos on the internet so just delete him and move on. Do not waste any time on losers like him.

[AnErin]

His relationship is falling apart. It is NOT your fault. He needs to "shit or get off the pot" when it comes to his wife or girlfriend. Some people REALLY drag their feet when it comes to making serious moves. Like people who are in the process of a divorce for many years.
It is also possible that he doesn't even have a G/F but uses the sympathy card in hopes a woman will feel sorry for him.

You could ask him out and see what happens. If he is too busy or whatever, move on. He is probably not 1/2 as great as you are imagining. Yes over the web it is easy to get this ideal image of who they might be but that often leads to disappointment.

[Wakeup]

You could ask him out and see what happens. If he is too busy or whatever, move on. He is probably not 1/2 as great as you are imagining. Yes over the web it is easy to get this ideal image of who they might be but that often leads to disappointment.

^^^ That's called ignoring a real red flag. This guy has a girlfriend and he's on an online dating site looking to start something with someone... Ask a premeditated cheater out? I don't think so, Op.

[TheEvilJester]

You will meet a LOT of weirdos on the internet...

Hey, I resemble that remark. ;-) LOL!

(Note: In case you were wondering, I did NOT mean to say resent. LOL!)