Should I ask her out for another date? What is she thinking?

[Huey]

Hi,

I've been on a couple of dates with this girl (24yo) that had gone well. Nothing too serious.

One night I got really drunk and I invited her out to a bar. She said she couldn't make it so I invited another girl. She came along and the 24yo changed her mind and also came along. As you can imagine it didn't end great. I tried damage control but because of my drunken state I don't think I was saying the right things....idiot I know. I tried to call her about 6 times. She eventually told me that she is not over her ex and wants to remain single. She also told me that she hopes I find what I'm looking for. I told her that I enjoyed taking her out and if she ever wants to go out again she knows my number.

It had been over a week with nothing from her until yesterday when I received a text:

Hey Brucey! (She's never called me Brucey before) Just thought id say merry xmas. Must be hard being away from your daughter. Just was thinking about you. Hope youve had a nice day 🎅🎄

I just replied with "Hi, thanks. I hope you're having a great Christmas". And left it at that. She never replied.

Is she wanting me to ask her out for another date or is she just being polite/friendly? I don't know why she would make contact with me again if she didn't want something more. Is it up to me to make the next contact or should I leave it for a few more days?

Thoughts?

Thanks.

[Cerby]

Nope, it sounds like you buried yourself at the bar by inviting another woman, and then her as well. She spooned you a common line, "I'm still in love with my ex". Calling her obsessively probably didn't help either.

Do nothing, wait to see if she comes to you. If not, move forward, this situation doesn't sound promising.

[Huey]

Hi,

It might be worth adding that when she told me about her ex etc....she was well pi$$ed off with me. Totally agree calling her up was not a good idea.

I would still like to know why she text me yesterday. I starting to wish she hadn't as it is a bit confusing. I think doing nothing is my best bet.

Thanks.

[smackie9]

Hah I think she has cooled off and is reaching to see if there is any interest on your end still. If she was that pissed, she would have never contacted you.

Her saying she wasn't over her ex was her saying "well I wasn't that into you anyway so there!"

She's fishin.....I bet she will be looking for a date for New Years Eve.

[Huey]

A bit of an update;


I finally made contact with her yesterday and this is how it went -


Me: Hey. I've missed out chats. Can we catch up sometime?


Her: Hey! Yeah I have aswell to be honest but not sure if a good idea...


Me: ...what's it going to take to convince you?


Her: Not sure!


Me: Dinner, drinks and an apology?

Her: Maybe


Me: I respect your space, hope you change your mind.


Where is this heading? I'm not going to force her to go out with me on a date. Does she want to be chased? Should I just leave it where it is and wait for her and if I hear nothing then so be it?


Cheers

[surfhb2]

I'm sorry but how do you owe her an apology?

Call her. No texting !!!!

Just call her ask her out.....from there the balls in her court

[Lord Darkshire]

She wants you to grovel for awhile.....to prove that you think she's worth it. She is letting you know that she isn't easily played. Good luck with that.

[Boisdevie]

She sounds pretty unimpressed. And you must be pretty desperate.