Hi everyone!
I have never used forums before as I was never so confused about a guy as I am now.
I really hope you can give me some advice as to how I should act and what this guy feels towards me/wants from me.
It all started more than a year ago on exchange. He seen me in university and he contacted me through social network (he was also an exchanger). I did not notice him and I didn't feel any attraction towards him, plus I never suffered from lack of attention from guys, so I didn't really care much about him. He was really stubborn in his attempts to see me (physically going to my room in dormitories) and inviting me to his birthday, etc. Yet I never agreed to see him and I told him that I am not interested in him, especially after I found out that he has a reputation of a "womanizer". I was replying very politely to his messages and we were sometimes chatting on social network, but I could never imagine this chatting would last a year (especially when exchange was finished, he still continued messaging me).
His messaging patterns were weird. He would message me and we could chat for a week very intensively and then he would disappear for a month, which I didn't really care about at that time as I didn't think we will ever see each other, plus I had a boyfriend. Yet, after a year he decided to come and visit me for a weekend. This came as a shock for me as I didn't expect it, however I agreed to see him. It was an interesting weekend, because it was stressful, yet interesting at the same time. I didn't have anything intimate with him except kissing. First of all I didn't want it then, I wasn't ready and secondly, I didn't trust him because of his reputation being Casanova.
He contacted me in three days after the weekend (three day rule) and we chatted for a week until he pulled a disappearance act for a month. I was going crazy and I did contact him once only asking a random question trying not to show my interest. He did reply, yet he still disappeared. I didn't contact him too, because first of all I never messaged him first, secondly because I am proud and I got offended. Later he explained that he disappeared because I went on holidays with my boyfriend and he didn't want to message me then.
When he re-appeared I didn't reply for a week (he messaged me 4 times and called me on the phone). I broke up with my boyfriend after that holiday (after nearly 4 years in relationship) and I was angry and hurt, so I didn't want this disappearing and re-appearing game again. But I replied to 4th message of his. As soon as I told him about break up, he immediately came to see me on nearest weekend.
It was a great weekend, but....
1. He lied to me - he also had a girlfriend. He cried saying that he will break up with her, that I also had a boyfriend and I didn't reply, etc. etc. etc.
2. He still has his womanizing talks about women.
3. When he left, he said he will pull a 3 day rule again.
BUT
1. He promised to no lie and sort out girlfriend issue
2. He promised not to disappear again.
3. He said his intention is not to sleep with me.
What should I think of all this?
I cant trust him as I feel he only wants to win me and sleep with me for his trophy collection.