People are always talking about sex, contraception, stds etc-nobody really teaches young people about the emotional aspect and it is there for both men and women. You have just as much right as a girl to say no and you should stay true to yourself regardless of what your friends think. My bf doesnt believe in casual sex either and hes not religious. There are plenty of men who would rather be comitted and there is nothing abnormal about that.
You shouldnt waste so much time though. 9 months is too long. If your seeking commitment then find a girl who wants that too and you can speed up the process a bit by telling her early on you want a relationship
"Don't ask a question if you can't handle the answer".