Does he like me?

[orangejuice13]

Hello everyone, I need advice on a confusing guy.

So I am college and there is this guy I recently started talking to. The thing is that he doesn't text or go online much so most of the talking we've done is in person (I'm used to guys talking to me constantly online/text when they like me so the lack of virtual communication is throwing me off). Anyway, we have gone to dinner once - in the college dining hall so I'd hardly count it as a date. A week after we had dinner, he asked me to go ice skating. It was just the two of us, he paid, and we held hands so I assumed it was a date.

Less than a week later, I asked if he wanted to hangout. He initially said yes, but then something always came up on his end so we didn't end up hanging out at all. He then invited me to watch a movie, but then later on said he was sick and couldn't do it anymore. He said we can watch a movie sometime this week so I'm afraid of that unfinalized plan being cancelled as well. He seems really nice and sincere but if he liked me, shouldn't he make an effort to make our plans go through? I should also mention that we attend an ivy league university so we both tend to be incredibly busy and don't have much time to see each other at all unless we specifically plan something. But we both also live on campus so it's not THAT difficult to plan something.

Does this guy like me? Does he just see me as a friend or is there a possibility of something more? Should I continue to try to see him more or should I wait for him to do it first?

[toknow]

"He seems really nice and sincere but if he liked me, shouldn't he make an effort to make our plans go through?"

Here is your answer

[basilandthyme]

I think that illness is a very good reason to postpone a date.

When he said that you could do something later in the week, did you respond by saying "that would be great, what do you have planned?"

[orangejuice13]

@toknow I guess it would be that simple if we weren't in such a stressful environment where people tend to put their academics over everything else (which I do too) so I understand the reasoning behind why our previous plans were postponed/cancelled (academic reasons)

@basilandthyme He said we'll reschedule a definite time when he feels better so that's why the plans are still unfinalized, but yes I definitely agreed to going out with him sometime

Haha college classes are getting in the way of college (dating)! Maybe our main issue is time management

[orangejuice13]

@toknow I see it as more complicated than that because we're in a stressful environment where people put their studies first and all his excuses were academic-related so they made sense to me

We finally were able to hangout. We watched a movie together and then hung out in my room afterwards. However, he didn't make a move to kiss me or anything all night so I'm still really confused. It is either I'm friend zoned or he doesn't have the guts to make a move. Should I make the first move or should I just keep waiting and see what he does? We're hanging out again tomorrow.