is jealousy a bad thing

[rowdybusch]

I understand it can be a bad thing but doesn't everyone get a bit jealous? i'll admit i do. I don't control my girlfriend but I do get a bit jealous. If I see a guy maybe hitting on her I get a bit jealous but I never get mad or yell at her or anything

[Nora4]

I think jealousy is a normal thing I think as long as it's not extreme or controlling. If you stop your partner from doing things because of jeqlousy then thats what makes you crazy

[Starnique]

I think it's normal. As long as it doesn't become crazy possessive behavior and controlling. My bf is very cool and hr likes to show me off. We was out the other day and it was feeling good outside so I had on my little mid stomach top and high rise pants, looking all luscious and this guy was in his car like guys,was staring at me and my bf was like, wtf is he looking at and I thought it was funny so yea sometimes guys get jealous and girls do too. I do. Just don't let it get out of control.

[rowdybusch]

yea everyone gets jealous i just think its on how you handle it

[smackie9]

I agree with the above post jealousy is a normal reaction and can make you or the other person appreciate more of what they have, BUT if it consumes you, or makes the person controlling, then it's really a bad bad thing.

[lovesaidno]

I personally think the jealousy level of how much a relationship can take depends on the two people who are in the relationship. I am personally a very jealous person. In my past experience this has been both good and bad. Some of the people I have been with found it to be reassuring that I cared enough about them to let those feelings come out, while others saw it as being too clingy and attached. I personally love when a guy is jealous ( but this does not mean I deliberately make them jealous). If you ( as my boyfriend ) see another guy hitting on me and just stand and do nothing, that tells me you don't care. I don't expect you to come over and knock him out or act like an idiot, but it would be greatly appreciated and kind of a turn on for you to come and put your arm around me, kiss me on the cheek or say something sweet in front of the person hitting on me to let them know that I am yours.