Okay, please help me work out 1. if this guy likes me 2. what I should do
Me and this work colleague are working temporarily in a job with no notice period. We started on the same day 3 weeks ago, our job can end at any time and is in fact ending any day now.
He is super friendly to the rest of the guys and girls on the team. He is single and straight. We are both 30. We both have menial jobs.
He sits opposite me and I catch him looking at me or we look at each other and quickly look away. One time he tried to make me laugh. In meetings he positions himself so he is looking directly at me. I have made him laugh and smile since I have known him.
Our job is ending soon.
I chat to everyone on the team both men and women and I am friendly and a smiley person.
I have mutual friends outside work with my crush.
It's been 3 weeks and he hasn't asked me out or even if he wants to keep in contact after our job finishes. In our job, it is not a problem to date a work colleague and many people have met their other halves at work.
The reason why I need advice, is that one time ages ago I asked a work colleague out after we had been friends and it turns out the guy wasn't attracted to me and it was awkward, I put it down to experience, although the first guy was really trying to make light of it because he was really wanting to keep me as a friend, I was quite happy to lose the friendship and ignore him due to my hurt feelings, he thought our friendship was too valuable. I felt a fool for misinterpreting his friendly signals. A female colleague had later told me that this first guy had been hitting on her and had I known that at the time, I would have not asked the first guy out (in any event, the female colleague wasn't attracted to the first guy and the first guy immediately lost interest in her). The whole episode made me realise I never wanted to ask out a guy ever again, as I ended up rejected, embarrassed and felt a fool.
This time, I really am not sure what to do. One of my male friends said that if you know a guy and he is attracted to you, if he hasn't made a move within a month of knowing you, he doesn't like you.
Because our jobs are ending, I want to keep in contact with this guy and/or develop things further. What do I do?
Also, is he only looking over at me, because I am looking over at him? At what point does staring over at someone because you think they are staring at you? I say staring, I mean quick glances where our eyes meet.
How do you know when a friendly guy likes you or something more?
Please help. I've really come to really like this guy and it saddens me this guy could be out of my life forever soon unless I do something, but if I do something, I could be embarrassed again.