Hi everyone - need advice.....
ok here's the deal - I've been "seeing" this guy since January 2012 - background.... I was left at the altar back in 2011 and met him a few months later who actually knows my ex fiancé - us meeting had nothing to do with my past relationship....
Me and him started hanging out casually and from the beginning he was always a little paranoid bc he did not want my ex to find out.... they were not friends but worked in the same company.... so they did know each other. They no longer work with eachother so us being "friends" on Facebook and stuff has been going on for a while......
We have had sex a few times back in 2012.... in the beginning he would always say "sex leads to feelings so its dangerous"... never took it any further - any time we hang out its usually at his house, we do not go out, we lay together - cuddle watch movies, massages, and maybe a little fooling around. we have not had sex since may 2012. I like the closeness and consider him a friend but a little more than that.... i'm in love with the guy! so since 2012 we have been hanging out and its always a great time.
To this day he still has me come over and I see him like every week to 2 weeks.... he claimed back in December 2012 to only like me as a friend however how do you only like someone as a friend and get "close" - fool around with them..... how do u hook up with someone who u have no feelings for knowing how I feel for him????
So this brings me to know - ummm over 2 years of hanging out.... he will NOT have sex with me.... I have asked him and he says "not happening" - meanwhile im good enough to give him a BJ???
So now after talking to all my girls about it - everyone is convinced that he is gay!!!! i'm starting to think so myself.... what else could it be??? i'm no Marilyn Monroe but I do go out with other men and can have sex with anyone else eventhough I dont..... why is it that he just wont have sex with me!!!!!
Icing on the cake which brought me here..... I texted him today to say "lets hang out in front of the fire tonight and have some wine".... his reply was "when are you bringing another woman over?"..... so now he is FIXATED on having a 3some with me and another woman!!!!
so my response was "ughhhhh"..... he then says "whats the big deal, not like im going to have sex with her" -
so basically he wants a 3 some with me and another woman..... but ONLY for oral pleasure from me and another woman - NO SEX?????!!!!!
Seriously????? help! wtf!!!! how is it that I am in love with this guy and he clearly has some sort of issue going on.....
THANK YOU in advance for your input..... how do I handle this???