First off let me tell about myself, I am recently divorced from a 10 year relationship, and yes it was a long time coming, my heart was no longer in it and for over most of the relationship we did nothing but fight and argue over stupid stuff, I'm a nice guy so I always took the blame for everything, and I know now the only reason I was in that relationship was because I settled. For years I was shy, still kinda am, and nobody played attention to me, I was that nerdy freak in school that girls dated for a day to an hour just to make some guy jealous. I never talked to girls and so when somebody asked me out I couldn't say no...anyways

I met this girl at work, cute shy girl, she reminded me of myself when I was younger with the way she acted. There is an 8 year difference with me being the oldest, but that's not the problem. I was lucky enough to get her to finally over the course of a month to open up and start talking to me, and the more I talked to her the more I loved about this girl, and from what she says the more she fell in love with me. She suffers from social anxiety, so much that she doesn't like to talk to people, or do anything new. This was her first job ever and her dad had to hold her hand into the interview. She has lead a sheltered life and her parents still treat her like she is a teenager.

We have been dating for almost 3 months now, and yes its her first relationship, which means I was her first "partner" and no her parents don't know about that part. For the most part we are very happy, occasionally go in on dates and hanging at her house watching movies. I love every aspect of this girl and I don't want her to change. But there are moments when she absolutely hates herself and who she is, and feels like I should have someone else. I'm constantly telling her how beautiful and sexy and everything, which is no lie. e thinks the only way I could love her is if she is perfect inside and out, but that's not true. She takes meds for her anxiety but I don't know what kind.

The latest thing and this is what I need help with, she doesn't feel I love her and thinks I will find someone else and leave her, just because I left my Ex wife...now the two relationships are totally different and I actually 100% love this girl to death, and all I want is to be with her, because when we are together we are so very happy, but when we are apart is when things get bad. I understand a lot of people do believe people can be in love this fast but it does happen.

I have tried and said everything I can think of to help her see that I really do love her....so I ask for help from anyone willing to give me some suggestions. And before you start, a single day of romance only goes so far and then there is the time we are not together dand we just miss each other so much...please help me help her...thank you for the help, and if you don't have anything to offer then thank you for listening.