22 y.o. with feelings for an escort. Difficult situation.

[bulrush]

First, recognize you have a crush on this girl, nothing more. Sure, you may be infatuated with the fact that you have something in common, or she's sex positive, which is rare enough in some countries (America). Second, you can ask her if she could date a guy like you, but then, could you date a girl like her with all her other clients?

[nopickuplines]

It's normal to feel emotions even for an escort. These girls are real girls, and have a true heart beneath them. Some have gotten really good at what they do, but that doesn't mean they can't be genuine. In this case being genuine has created more money for her from you. It's a tough situation. Because in order to see her you have to pay her, which can be a burden to the wallet.

Do you sense chemistry at all between the two of you? When you touch her, do you feel that true connection? If so, then there is nothing wrong with dating an escort. The relationship would have to be more of an open relationship for obvious reasons, but I think it could work. Escort or not, when there is chemistry, things move to a higher level naturally.

The problem with escorts in my opinion is that they usually have a bunch of psychological issues. Many have been raped, molested, sexually assaulted, beat up, and many of them are lured into the business by very psychopathic pimps. I'm not denying that there can be chemistry, and sometimes we men want that excitement and craziness of having a connection with someone wild like that. But just know that once you really get to know her, a lot of issues that she has hidden in a dark closet can arise. I wish my love to all women.

[searock]

Regardless of the fact that she's an escort and that you already had sex: you met a girl and now you have a crush on her. You should ask her out on a real date of course. Make sure she knows it's a date and you are not requesting her services as an escort, you just want to get to know her as a person and see if that can lead to something.

[michelle23]

Michelle this is wear I am having issues with being honest to women.

No man (well 99% of them) is going to tell a women they have paid for sex. Certainly not your partner. I am telling you how it is & being real. Your reply is to belittle us for being honest. It's no wonder guys will not tell you, can you blame them. We are sexual creatures unfortunately.

I know if I wasn't so honest in my last relationship we would not of broke up (that's a fact) & I wouldn't be in the position I am today. It's sad to know & you are proving it that I will never be as honest to my next partner again. I need to be more selfish & put my feelings before them.

The guys who have no conscious & sleep behind their partners back & go home pretending nothing has happened are in my view kinda blessed as they can go back to their safe family life without the fear of having to rebuild their life again from scratch.

Something that I am doing right now which totally sucks. If I was selfish & didn't tell the truth I know I would not be in this position.

You are one man. Not even 0.01% of the male population. You cant speak for ALL men or 99%.. instead of saying "we" or "us"-say "I" and then I may take your posts more seriously.

if I wrote a post saying "why do all men lie or cheat" etc, the abuse I would get here for generalizing would probably last 12 pages. You may think so little of the male gender but in general I dont

[dem862]

It is acceptance of these kinds of personal things that builds intimacy in a relationship. You can't love somebody you don't really know. Also I could never be with a woman who was so closed-minded and immature that she could not accept a very basic, and wide-spread male prerogative.

[smackie9]

I see no one has hit the thank you button.....that should be telling you something, your post isn't useful.

[michelle23]

It is acceptance of these kinds of personal things that builds intimacy in a relationship. You can't love somebody you don't really know. Also I could never be with a woman who was so closed-minded and immature that she could not accept a very basic, and wide-spread male prerogative.

And I could never be with a man who views women as nothing more than sex objects or someone so desperate and insecure-hes willing to pay for it

[KingZ]

And I could never be with a man who views women as nothing more than sex objects or someone so desperate and insecure-hes willing to pay for it

This is really dumb. What's the difference between having sex with a prostitute and masturbating?

[pcmaster]

What is the diference KingZ ?

[michelle23]

This is really dumb. What's the difference between having sex with a prostitute and masturbating?

If theres no difference than why not just masturbate? RME!!!

[KingZ]

If theres no difference than why not just masturbate? RME!!!

For the same reason you would use sex toys or watch porn. It's different and/or more fun and/or more stimulating.

[dem862]

And I could never be with a man who views women as nothing more than sex objects or someone so desperate and insecure-hes willing to pay for it

Well, those men would like sex too. Sex isn't just for the fortunate and attractive. The women who serve those men are the most compassionate in my eyes. I'll leave you to cast your stones.

[surfhb2]

And I could never be with a man who views women as nothing more than sex objects or someone so desperate and insecure-hes willing to pay for it

Hmmmm...I get where you're coming from but you aren't a man and have no idea how we view sex

[michelle23]

Well, those men would like sex too. Sex isn't just for the fortunate and attractive. The women who serve those men are the most compassionate in my eyes. I'll leave you to cast your stones.

And what about these women who have been forced into it, abused, raped, treated like dirt or a piece of s**t on the end of your shoe? Even willing prostitutes have been raped on average at least three times. They have no soul by the time their done and most of them despise men. Compassion? Wheres yours?

[dem862]

And what about these women who have been forced into it, abused, raped, treated like dirt or a piece of s**t on the end of your shoe? Even willing prostitutes have been raped on average at least three times. They have no soul by the time their done and most of them despise men. Compassion? Wheres yours?

Well, people have been forced into slavery for thousands of years. It is wrong, but you don't stay a word about those people, who are both men and women. There have been arranged marriages where women are abused, and even regular marriages, and other sexual relationships, where people of both sexes are abused. It is wrong, but you don't say a word about them either. Many escorts make a decent living, easily more money than you or I do. Many escorts would have no other way to support their families. True there is probably a higher risk of violence in the profession, but many women take that chance because it provides a better living than some minimum wage job flipping burgers or whatever.

In many places in the world, prostitution is legal and regulated. Once again, if it is a private act between two consenting adults, what business is it of yours to judge? Yes, rape is wrong. Physical and emotional abuse is wrong. Adultery is wrong. Nobody argues that. But if a single man wants to give a single woman some money, and they have sex, who does it hurt, really? It seems like a win-win situation to me. Grow up, will you.