Originally Posted by
GrayFox
I don't want to go to the party that much, but I want to go to simply not be afraid of being in the same room as her. For a while I stopped going to the same parties as her as well as not hang out with friends cuz I knew she would be there; I just don't want her to be the reason I make myself miss so many opportunities. We share some common classes, so we sometimes see each other passing by; she knows she hurt me and she always has this face of guilt and shame when she sees me and I feel pathetic and self-conscious around her, the point being that I just want to be able to pass by her and see her as just a stranger, not someone I loved and trusted.
I also ask just in case, if I end up bumping into her and she tries to talk to me should I talk to her(I mean if she doesn't act bitchy, and is trying to make small talk) Or just quickly (and politely) end the conversation?
Would it be better for me if I just avoid her at all cost?
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Oh, and a girl I have a thing with (we flirted a couple times and are interested in each other but nothing has come of it yet) will be at the party. It's not wrong in anyway if I try to hook up with her there? Even though my ex is there with the guy she cheated on me with -- like would it be better if I try to hold my advances toward her until we are in an ex-cheating-gf free zone?
Take the new girl to the party ~ Ask her to go with you, don't just hook up with her while you are there. Make it known that you came as a couple.
As for the ex and her new future ex boyfriend. Ignore her, ignore him and if he gets in your face, tell your mutual friends to have your back and just distract him from being an ass and possibly causing grief to the party.
Your situation is not unique. It happens all the time and if you're going to maintain Mutual friends then you're going to have to get used to seeing them together. Hitch up your jeans and get over the awkwardness. This can be achieved by becoming used to seeing them together which will eventually get you to the stage of indifference to them and what ever they happen to be up to.
Walk tall.
“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” ~Joan Didion