Okay first things first. I live in the UK, she lives in the US, so it's long distance.
I've been getting to know her for 8 months. A few months after talking non stop, videos, pictures, etc. She said she loves me, and I'm the first person she trusts, but before getting into a relationship, we should meet and see how things go. She said if things got really serious, she would consider moving, and it would be best for her to move since there's not many opportunities where she is. I'm not sure in person, but online she gets a lot of male attention. She's sent me text messages and stuff other guys sent to her, and she always turns them down, but as usual guys keep going in.
Up until February there wasn't many problems. There was a guy interested in her, she told him she wasn't interested, and they met up a few times. He kept buying her gifts and such, until one day they had an argument and she deleted him. She then thought one day I was being distant, and was upset saying I wasn't talking much... but in fact I was booking a trip to go see her. So, eventually I done it. Spent £1300-1400 on a trip. She planned everything out for me for when I get there. I was basically going to be spending time with her, her family, and her closest friend. Her Dad has a beach house, so we were going to go there for a day also. Once we were being more public with each other, a lot of people got involved. Friends and family both ends, which caused some arguments, or us to be upset.
Over the months, I've bought her a things such as Jewellery, equipment (she wants to be an artist), I've also made a page and website for her to get her career started. She has people asking her to draw things all the time now.
Last week, she sent me a picture of her ex licking her feet. She said they still hang out, it was a recent pic, but she only sent it because she thought it was funny (she has a weird sense of humour). One of my family members saw it and confronted her, which got her mad and she eventually blocked them after saying sorry about 4 times. She said I was a snitch, and had no right letting anyone see, because she only sent it to me privately.
She then started giving me 1-4 worded replies, or nothing, not bothering to open my messages. She said it's a good thing she trusts no one and I'm a snitch. I've apologised countless times for it. I had an argument with the family member that confronted her, she said my family, and friends hate her, and she's the reason of breaking up a family because I said I would move out in anger. I said I would leave her alone. Afterwards, I started messaging a bit, because I have work due, and it was based on her, so I needed pictures and things from her. Over the last few days I was making emotional statuses, and she saw them.
She said we were okay now, but she just wants to be friends, no "emotional shit". She said she doesn't know if she still wants to meet me, and asked would I even bother going if we didn't meet up. I said I wouldn't want to, but I have no choice, I've spent Over £1300 to go, and it's not fair to spend that much and be on a 13-18 hour flight for nothing. She told me she was cutting people from her life, and she's tired of the drama that follows me and at home.
After this she deleted me, she said she was tired of seeing the million statuses and it was set to her seeing it only. I told her I had it like that, cause I wanted to vent, and didn't want anyone else to see and I didn't mind her seeing it. I said I would give her some space, and asked her to consider meeting as friends. She read it but no reply.
We both have two accounts. I have her "family" account added as a friend still, and she has mine, on the one she deleted me. I'm not sure if she purposely left it there, or had forgotten.
My problem is, is it really over? It seems really unfair to have spent this much time, and money, and not even be given a chance before getting there. I agree, that nobody else, should have saw it... but isn't she overreacting over a picture? She wasn't even in the picture, only her feet, and the person only saw it, it wasn't saved. Next week, her mother will be receiving some Mother's Day gifts from me, that I sent 2 weeks ago. I'm hoping from that, things will change but I'm not sure. It's stressing and depressing me, I can't really focus on other things. Especially when someone mentions her.