DOES SHE WANT ME? Please help

[justmeandi]

Hi There

I am a 31 year old lesbian, I just came out of a long term relationship with my ex, we are still close.
Through my ex I met another chick who is also lesbian, who is in a current relationship... the chick she is with is painful and annoying- besides that, I adore this chick, she is perfect.
We have an odd connection, and have been out in a group on more then one occasion.
The last time her gf was at the bar the entire time while i was chatting up her missus who was cold, I wnt and told this young buck that her missus was cold, she just ignored me, so I removed her jacket and took it back to this hot mumma and put it on her to warm her up.
She was making eye contact the entire time, to the point where I would giggle.
Then I went up behind her and held her arms behind her as though I was apprehending her... she just fell back into me, no hesitation.
the other day she invited me to her work lunch, I went along, she walked in and i was nervous, and she just walked past me and I made no eye contact... it was awkward for ages, and we kept making the odd eye contact.
Then i decided to leave, i did the rounds of the table slowly making my way to her, i grabbed her hand and she gave it to me... it was a long hold, and she was very relaxed. She asked my ex for my number the other day, and was texting me, we often text although I am the one who generally starts it.
I guess what I am trying to figure out is do I have a chance. Today she asked how my day was and I said, it would be better if you were in it, I also said its stunning just like she is... I have dropped so many hints, and I know its bad cause she is with another, yet I want her so bad.
She doesnt ignore me, she will always reply... does this indicate she may be a little bit keen? Any help will be greatly received...

[basilandthyme]

She may indeed have a crush on you, but this doesn't mean that she'll leave her current relationship. I'm concerned that if you continue in your current trajectory, you'll going to get very hurt and disappointed. I suggest you pull back a bit. Let her come to you...and only accept her if she's single.

[justmeandi]

Hmmm you are making a lot of sense. I agree, I dont want to be a third party or encourage cheating- but how the heck do you let someone know you are there and waiting for them if you cant get intimate. It is such a mind efffff. I really like this chick, and I cant stop thinking about her... I just am not sure how the hell I can win her affections and woo her when she is with someone else.
Any Ideas? another thing- what makes you think there may be a crush? I wanna secure this chick.... so bad!
Oh and how do I pull back? Should i delete her number? hard cause I am naturally a hunter

[basilandthyme]

From one hunter to another, I would suggest you tell her that you have feelings for her and you are pulling back because you know it's inappropriate. This will let her know how you feel, but leave the ball in her court. Her response will tell you what you need to know.

But please don't move forward unless she leaves her partner! Lure her - don't capture her

[justmeandi]

Its a bit forward, Im to scared lol.... how would I say that without her telling my ex or her current.

[smackie9]

Why would she say anything if she is already over stepping her relationship boundaries. Maybe next time you see her, ask her what is she doing, why does she give you affection, holds your hand, let you touch her. Say''What are we doing here? You have a GF.''

Pulling back would be a good idea, who knows maybe you are just friends zoned.

[basilandthyme]

Its a bit forward, Im to scared lol.... how would I say that without her telling my ex or her current.

you're already very forward