I would love to discuss this with her to get some clarity but I feel like she will feel like I am accusing her.
I dunno, any thoughts?
Yes three immediately came to mind:
1. When someone you've known for only "months" talks about you marrying them that is a huge red flag warning you about the emotional immaturity of the one bringing it up. You should never think of marrying someone you don't even yet know. Ever! I don't care if there is the odd person out there that its worked for. The odds are not in your favour that you're with a sane person.
I only mention it in the context of showing why I perceived her of having high level of attraction and commitment towards our relationship.
It means she's pushing you into this and there is a reason she's pushing but it's got little to do with level of attraction. She barely knows you. You barely know her. All you know is that you're in the honeymoon stage and you've just encountered your first blip on the radar.
2. Why are you so afraid to speak your mind? That is another red flag you're afraid to communicate your own wants and needs which means you are insecure in who you are with as being a good mate that is emotionally mature enough to realize that her double standard IS A DOUBLE STANDARD. If she doesn't want you contacting as ex then why on earth would you not tell her that she's asking you to adhere to a relationship boundary that she herself is not adhering to?
3: You've just found out a few things that indicate that you are not compatible with this women. Either get it resolved so that she adheres to her own boundary of not talking to ex's and if she refuses to resolve then you know enough to get out of this relationship before she destroys your emotional well being.
Last edited by Wakeup; 14-05-14 at 06:42 AM.
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