Is it over or do I give it time? i can tell she still loves me

[melo84]

My girlfriend of 7 months recently broke up with me due to trust. The story is, we were away on vacation and I used her card to reserve a flight after finding out our original flight was cancelled. We were unable to get another flight out. I had originally booked the tickets but there were no more flights on this particular airline so we had to get completely different tickets. I was unable to transfer the amount in time to purchase. I then paniced and used her card. I know this was not right and no justification. I wasn only thinking about how she reacts to sudden change and thought it was the better option.
The bigger issue is when she found out i denied it because I knew I hurt her and it might end things. So at this point I lied and manipulated her. This is not in my chararcter to do anything like this and there is no history of this in our relationship. I've always been there for her and wanted to do things for her.
I feel even worse because we had gotten to a point of going to church together, closeness with one anothers family, and speaking about the future.
Since this incident, she broke up with me because she says she cant trust me (which I understand). She has forgiven me and we have actually hung out a couple times with laughs and being affectionate (no sex). i did pay her back as well.I was pressuring her and trying to show her that it would never happen again but it has only frustrated her. Our last conversation last night I had just decided that i need to give her space but I wrote her a letter to tell her what i have sincerely learned from this experience to keep it from happening in the future whether its as a friend or something more. It included how to handle fights, money issues, being open, trust. She was reluctant to read but once she read it she said how nice that would be.
She just expressed that right now she is not thinking relationship because she is angry but held on to the letter I wrote. She says she prays everyday to get over this and I told her I understood why she feels the way she does and know its not an easy turnaround. We agreed that space is probably best right now because she is upset over the situation and she said she didn't know how long it would take to get over it.
What do you suggest? I'm willing to give space because she continues to tell me she is torn because she knows her feelings for me and I know how we feel about eachother considering we talked about marriage. Is there hope? How do I gain that trust back?

[smackie9]

Please pray for your relationship and God will take care of the rest.

[Rowen]

I got it... Hire an actor and stage a mugging in which you fight said actor off while a bunch of pink-painted doves fly around you to cue a kissing moment. Oh wait...that wouldn't work. (Sorry- tried to add some humor to cheer you up.)


Anyway, there's nothing that you can do that will magically make her trust you again. You tried bringing it up several times to talk about it. You tried writing a letter. She told you how she feels. So, right now, you have to accept that and move on, being yourself. If you be yourself and move on from it, it leaves a space open that she can see that you're worthy of trust and capable of not dwelling on it. Meanwhile, it allows her a chance to decide what she wants to do about that...whether she wants you back or not.

But don't bring it up to her anymore. If you do, it's only going to make her more upset, and it's going to show her that you can't get past it and step up to be a MAN. And it will most likely push her away and make her not trust you... I know that if someone keeps bringing up uncomfortable topics like that to me, it will not really make me want to put myself in a position where I'm protected and not prone to trusting them. And, in some cases, it may just annoy me.

It happened; accept that by telling yourself (right now), "It happened." Feel bad that it happened? Too bad; it's in the past. You can't change it. Now, all you can do is go forward.
Will you go forward? That's the question?