So I'm bi and having trouble...

[YoungCosmo]

I don't know how to deal with it. Guys REALLY like me and I can probably snag an amazing guy as a boyfriend but I don't think I have the courage to have one. Virtually nobody knows. Help?

[Valixy]

I suppose it should be easier for you to decide for someone you know and feel that there is attraction both ways, if not, I'd imagine it's just a question of hanging out in nice decent places where guys with similar preferences do. I think that you should give yourself the chance to get to know slowly a guy because you probably need a gradual experience until you'll be able to define your preferences.

[basilandthyme]

Wow. Didn't see THAT coming....

YC, I can only echo Valixy: take it slow. And know that both gay and straight relationships can be wonderful or fvcked up and all the areas of grey in between.

[YoungCosmo]

^LOL. I know. It's hard for me to accept. Have had sex with a couple of guys but to have a relationship? Scared!

[basilandthyme]

^LOL. I know. It's hard for me to accept. Have had sex with a couple of guys but to have a relationship? Scared!

What are you scared of? And what's the worst that could realistically happen?

[nico88]

One of my best friend's just came out to us and his family. I get that it would be difficult as hell to do just because you don't know how people are going to react,idk if that's the case here, but love is love man. If you want to be with a man and he makes you happy go for it. If people judge you or don't support you than you don't need them in your life anyways.

Do what makes you happy and don't worry about what anyone else thinks.

[KingZ]

Gay​​​​​​.

[Wakeup]

... and here we've all been giving you advice on how to fk women for the last two years.

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BTW: Just go back and read the 1,000's of posts because the same advice would apply.

[KingZ]

... and here we've all been giving you advice on how to fk women for the last two years.

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BTW: Just go back and read the 1,000's of posts because the same advice would apply.

Only one year.

That's not what he's asking about. This was put in "Off-Topic" for a reason.

[Wakeup]

... 0.o ...

[dem862]

Must have been hacked. Dude was into broads. -.-

[YoungCosmo]

What are you scared of? And what's the worst that could realistically happen?

Getting jumped. Losing good friends. The bad looks and slurs in public

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Must have been hacked. Dude was into broads. -.-

Half of that is true. Wanna guess which part?

[basilandthyme]

On getting jumped: Is this a frequent thing in the US?

On losing good friends: If good friends dump a person because of their sexuality, then they are NOT friends worth having. I recently saw something on FB about how "if I share this pro gay post", I may lose some friends". And I thought.....I don't have any friends who would object to this stance. And if I did have friends who objected to my stance, I would have torn very public strips off them long ago: I will not be a friend of someone who's intolerant.

On the bad looks and slurs in public: I was out drinking with a female friend a week ago. When saying goodbye, we had a long hug - and a male voice from the crowd yells about us hugging for too long or something. (And we were in the lesbian central of my city!! Heck, if two girls can't hug there, where can they hug!) But we just laughed and ignored. My point is that yes, people will say stuff. But try not to give a fvck what they say....their words are symptoms of their own issues and actually have very little to do with you.

[Exeter19]

i don't know what advice to give you that would magic up a perfect solution for you, cosmo. gotta just be confident and proud of who you are no matter what, being bi doesn't change that. like others said if your friends drop you because of the news of your sexuality well they weren't real friends after all, weeding out fakes is a good thing overall. having 3 really great true friends is better than having 30 fake ones, right?

people are assholes to gays and straights, bi's or lesbians, because of someones color, nationality, it doesn't matter if, people will always find something to get on someone about, so stop worrying about what others think and concentrate on being happy with you, then what others think will matter that must less. i had a friend come out to a group of us, this was a elementary school friend, not one of us changed our opinions of him, a good person is just that no matter what sexual preference they have, who cares.

[HeartIsAching]

On getting jumped: Is this a frequent thing in the US?

On losing good friends: If good friends dump a person because of their sexuality, then they are NOT friends worth having. I recently saw something on FB about how "if I share this pro gay post", I may lose some friends". And I thought.....I don't have any friends who would object to this stance. And if I did have friends who objected to my stance, I would have torn very public strips off them long ago: I will not be a friend of someone who's intolerant.

On the bad looks and slurs in public: I was out drinking with a female friend a week ago. When saying goodbye, we had a long hug - and a male voice from the crowd yells about us hugging for too long or something. (And we were in the lesbian central of my city!! Heck, if two girls can't hug there, where can they hug!) But we just laughed and ignored. My point is that yes, people will say stuff. But try not to give a fvck what they say....their words are symptoms of their own issues and actually have very little to do with you.

Depends on where you live. Where YC lives... not so much. In rural Texas (which is most of it) it can be an issue.

A friend's BF was killed several years ago, and he's pretty sure it was because of his orientation.

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Got no real advice for you, YC. Sorry, just have no experience in this whatsoever.

I think the real question here is: Do you WANT to have a boyfriend? If you do, then you should go for it.