My ex broke up with me after 5 years because I wasn't right for her. I was (or still am) immature, unambigious, and undependable.

I employed NC and it is almost two months now. The breakup wasn't hostile: she wanted it to end, I was very sad.

She cried to contact me a couple times, but I ignored them because I wasn't ready to talk to her.

My intention is be able to set new boundaries for a friendship. She might be dating someone new, and I know I have to be completely ok with that before I even break NC.

I miss her and would like to catch up, but I don't want to mess it up by breaking NC too soon or too late.

I wanted to break NC when I could stand on my feet again. Have matured, started to work towards new goals, and be able to have people depend on me. I'm not there yet.

Do you think it is a better idea to wait to break NC after I've developed more?