Give up or not?

[miki]

I've known this guy for some months and we've hang out sometimes. We kissed. We are not officially dating but i really want to commit in a relationship because i've never dated someone before and i'm inexperience in relationship stuff. He has told me that he likes me before and yesterday i told him i love him. Here's the conversation:

Me: I love you
Him: is this like real love? What do you mean? Lol
Me : i'm serious
Him: why?
Me: No reason to explain it
Me: Don't you have the same feelings for me? Or am i thinking too much?
Him: I know I like you, you seem very sweet, but I am still very unsure about relationships and woman at this point, I know this is not what you want to hear but the truth is, over my last relationship, I'm still pretty much ****ed up over it.. I mean I've been working on finding myself spiritually and trying to find ways to let go but it's all still there like a wall of misery.. I'm sorry I know this is not what you want to hear but it's the truth
Me: I got it that's okay


I don't know what to do now. Lots of things came into my mind after reading his message. Here are the things that i've been thinking about.

First thought : it's okay if he is still over his ex and i can wait. He needs time to heal his wounds. And maybe i can just stay friend with him and try to make him relieve.

Second thought : am i wasting my time!? He is still over his ex and that means that i'm nothing for him. Why am i waiting for a guy who cannot love me back. And i know i will get hurt if he doesn't love me back after waiting for him.

My mind can't stop thinking. I can feel my heart beating so fast. I don't know what to do.. Should I give up or try my best ?

[johny1989]

I think you need some space dear, if possible for you try to make a distance from him of r sometime, because if he really likes you and loves you then he will come to you and try to contact you. well in my opinion this is not the time to give up so try one time by ignore him and if he will try to contact you, it means he is interested in you otherwise you know what you have to do..