HELP: need to break up with my LD boyfriend but his mother lives with me!!!

[diisti]

Need to break up with my long distance boyfriend but his mother lives with me!
My boyfriend (of 3 years) and I have lived together for 2 years. His mother was going through troubling times emotionally and financially so we moved her in a few months after my boyfriend moved into my house. Surprisingly we all got along well. Well my boyfriend and I have been long distance for a year due to work and school. The distance hurt but being away from each other has helped me to see him and our relationship in a new light. I doubt our future together and I want/need to breakup with him. One major problem, his mother still lives in my house while he's working in another state. She's still not healed but is doing better now since she got a new job. I feel horrible because she tells me on a bi-weekly basis how thankful she is that I have provided her a home. I'm thinking I can let her stay for a little bit after the break up, but would need her out quite soon after. I need to be able to get a paying roommate to occupy my boyfriend's mother's room since I will desperately need the income once my boyfriend and I break up.
Any advice? How long should I let her stay? Should I ask for rent payment? (She's been living here rent free).

[TablesandChairs]

Depends - is your boyfriend covering her share of the rent since he's not living with you? If he's not, then yes, you either ask for $ or politely ask her to move out when possible.

[woody]

Gallant of you and quite the predicament at the same time.
Hopefully his Mother will understand and accept but you need to do what right for you; it is his Mother and he can help her. You can do what you can but keep things fair all round. And yes, if you financially need rent money then it is completely justified asking for it. In a perfect World, she would simply offer what she could.
Have a nice talk with her and tell her your situation with her son; share the burden. You may be surprised at her level of compassion regarding such. She must be able to sense that you and her son aren't hitting it off anymore and would want to know how she can help. I'm sure she appreciates greatly the help given by you and i'm sure she'd love her own place anyway.
Talk to her. She's a woman and a Mother; she'll understand.

[Exeter19]

i don't get why if you said you have a ld relationship with your bf, that means you do not live together in the same house so why would his mother of all people being living with you if your bf is living elsewhere, did i miss something? does he come back to your shared house on weekends or twice a month? i don't get why you have to tell his mother, he should tell his own mother and come back and move her out, tell him to tell her after you tell him the relationship isn't working. it's his mother to care for, not yours, let him be the son he should be.