No, you should accept that your relationship is with the wrong man and stop hoovering one another back. He's not giving you what you want and vice versa. If you were compatible enough for this to last a lifetime then you two wouldn't have broken up in the first place.
Learn to live without what you want or leave him. He's not willing to accommodate your need for affection as he's told you outright. Believe him.
“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” ~Joan Didion