Originally Posted by
supertwonk
i cant call it how this is going to go until you give me feedback on what shes been up to since she left and until you let me know why she has come back into your life...
Op: Keep in mind that no one can "call" it accurately because everything is speculation if we are not her. Only she and you can decide that through conversation and finding out; first how she found you and second what she actually hopes to accomplish by finding you and coming back into your life.
My suggestion is you just go and find out what it is she wants without having ANY EXPECTATIONS. You're meeting an old acquaintance to catch up and that's it.
Let us know how it goes.
Keep in mind that she wasn't all the negative things you called her and she didn't "abandon" you. She gave you a decent chance at a relationship but your childhood trauma caused you to have issues with intimacy. She couldn't fix you and she left the relationship.
I hope you've gotten therapy to help you to come to terms with the abuse you had to endure and to overcome the issues that caused her to break up with you.
Good luck, let us know how your meeting goes if you decide to meet her.
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