Hey all,
I've been dating my current girlfriend for almost 4 years, living with her for over a year, and I love her dearly. But I think I'm falling fast and hard for another girl.
And the feeling is mutual. I'm not one to believe in "love at first sight", but I've known this girl for only 2 weeks and we're crazy about each other. We work together (with two different organizations that work closely on a daily basis) and we have hung out until 4 in the morning the past 3 nights in a row. We hooked up 2 nights ago, but did not have sex. She is a nice girl and feels terrible that I have a girlfriend, and did not want to push things too far. However she wants to, and we even discussed dating if I broke up with my current GF.
I've known almost from the get go with my current GF that she doesn't completely sync with my long term goals. Our senses of humor are very similar, but our goals in life, what we think is important, are very different. Almost to the point of her completely tuning out things that are of vital importance to me when they come up in conversation. Even so we're very close and familiar with each other. She stood loyally by my side through some difficult points in my life and I'm still in love with her, and her even more so with me. To make things worse, leaving her would be absolutely crushing--she really only has one friend who's not the most reliable. And she has issues with depression. I am terrified that if I did leave her, it would put her in a very dark and potentially dangerous place.
So, long story short, I have no idea to do. I'm completely infatuated with this new girl and her goals in life completely compliment my own, but I still love my girlfriend while knowing I may not want to marry her, which after 4 years, is definitely her expectation. Any advice greatly appreciated. Thanks