She's Jealous, I'm Desperate - Help! :-(

[aya91]

Hey,

I've been in a long distance relationship (1000km) since summer. Before that, we had been internet friends for 2 years, then we spontaneously decided to meet, spent one week together and entered into a relationship.
During the first month, everything went fine. At that point something very stupid happened, I accidentally unhid a picture of me and my ex on Facebook. As stupid as it sounds, it happened accidentally.
Of course, my girlfriend noticed and any explaining didn't help – she instantly got extremely jealous and we've been up and down, arguing for two months. Sometimes she broke up, cut off the contact for one or two days, and then I managed to bring her back. She is 100% sure I'm cheating on her, she has problems with me talking to anyone else.
I don't know what to do. I've written long letters, crafted gifts, tried to explain the best way I could she is the only one in my life. One day she is happy, then suddenly her mood changes and she starts telling me that it's all my fault, and that I'm cheating on her. We argued again yesterday, officialy she has broken up and right now I don't have the courage to talk to her again. I don't know how to handle her mood changes, no matter what I say, it's wrong.

The next time we're supposed to see each other will be mid-December. She has already bought the plane tickets (weren't even cheap), but I fear she won't come here.

Needless to say, I'm desperate and have fallen into depression again.
I know the right thing would be to let go, but I really want her back, she's supposed to come over in 6 weeks... That's not long.

Any ideas on how to handle the situation, especially the mood changes, and on how to build trust again?
It seems almost impossible from the distance.

[michelle23]

Break up with her for gods sake. What are you putting up with this for? What shes doing is abusive and you need to stop taking this shit from her. You have done nothing wrong but your being punished daily. Are you seriously willing to tolerate this? Where is your self respect?

And long distant relationships are a waste of time. Your willing to wait 6weeks for her? Find a gf that lives down the road who you can see daily.

[katyk]

Your girl does sound insanely unreasonably jealous. Jealousy is a killer in a relationship even more so than infidelity imo. Infidelity can be worked on but obsessive jealousy and playing mind games reaches a whole new level. Your life will be one long roller coaster. You don't know this girl really well so take this as a warning of things to come! Cut contact before she does and never mind the cost of plane tickets. Think of it as a lucky escape and get out and about meet up with other people and give her the big E before she screws you up completely. Just my opinion of course.

[woody]

If she has a problem with jealousy which by the sounds of it, she surely does, very little you do will assist her into trusting mode. You've explained things, offered apology, given it time and she still has issues. I'm sorry to say but sounds like she's just this way. Maybe she got burned before by someone else and never really healed.

Yet if she gets jealous even when you talk to someone else, well, major red flag there. Can't live or love like that; not fair to you or the person your talking to. I get you like this girl but if she can't get a grip and gets o.t.t when your just speaking to someone else, perhaps you should re consider this whole thing.

Though its natural to an extent to get a little jelly from time to time, your lady sounds over the top