Advice Needed

[Mmgaoraclukse]

For a while, this girl and I were talking. I liked her and we started hanging out and I planned to ask her out. She admitted to a mutual friend that she liked me and soon after I did ask her out. The first date went really well and she asked for a second before it ended. We shared a hug but before I could go in for a kiss she pulled away and went inside. We planned the next date for the following Friday and I picked her up that Friday evening. This date went differently. She acted a little closed off and we didn’t connect nearly as well as we did on the first date. I dropped her off early and after that she was even more standoffish. After about a week or two of seeing her among friends and things being completely awkward between us I pulled her aside. She said she just wanted to be friends and yada yada. I was disappointed but I essentially wrote her off. I was extremely busy at the time with school, work, and student organizations at the time anyway. Because of that, I really wasn’t able to put the time in which probably contributed to the issue.
Over the summer I met another girl and we became an item. Shortly after we got together she went back to school out of state. She doesn’t drive and goes to a military school so I will see her a significantly limited number of times over the next two years. It’s been about four months since we started dating and I am going to break it off with her soon for unrelated reasons. Over the last few weeks things between myself and the first girl have gotten really flirty and slightly physical. We’ve touched, held hands, both laid next to each other on the couch while watching a movie, etc. We see each other often during college as we have the same circle of friends but is usually in a group of friends.
I’m trying to decide what the best way to proceed. I asked her if she wanted to grab lunch on Thursday. We used to grab lunch about once a week when we first started talking but that ceased whenever she broke things off. This will be the first time we’ve gotten lunch alone together since. When I texted her about lunch she immediately said yes and then asked if there was anything I wanted to talk about probably due to the physical nature of things over the last few weeks. I initially sidestepped the question as she had also asked me something else in the same text. Then I answered it later but made up a BS answer. Should I tell her I may want to talk about this over lunch?
She doesn’t know I plan on breaking up with my current girlfriend. I’m trying to decide the best way to approach this. Could I use this to my advantage or mention that I’m contemplating a breakup to see what she says? What’s the best way to approach this to start a relationship with her? All responses appreciated!

[Wakeup]

You better find out if you're still friend zoned by her and if you are, then stop letting her over-step friendship boundaries (like cuddling with you, being touchy-feely and anything else that should be saved for your partner).

She sounds like a bit of an attention addict that got a little offended when you stopped fawning over her... So; If you want to break up with your military gf that's fine.. your call but don't do it for a chick that is playing you. She said she only wanted to be your friend. Ask her if that's all she still wants and if it is then NEXT HER so you can get over being her real live teddy bear.

[Mmgaoraclukse]

Next her?

[Wakeup]

Yes, get rid of her out of your life and find someone else to cuddle and hang with that actually wants to be your romantic girlfriend and not make YOU her male girlfriend. This one is giving you mixed signals and over-stepping simple friendship boundaries that leaves you confused and subject to HER whim. Stop letting her do that to you.