Originally Posted by
lovemenot
he hasn't kissed me on the mouth, cuz officially we're not dating, we're friends...who cuddle....and sleep together sometimes....and feel each other up...yeah it's weird..i am gonna talk to him.
All of those things are crossing platonic relationship boundaries and it's those very crossings that cause so much confusion, angst and emotional pain. Would you do those things with a female friend? No! Then why the fk are you doing them with a male one? You are your own worst enemy here, lovemenot. DO have that conversation with him and if he doesn't give you a straight answer then stop crossing "just friends" boundaries with him and take back your own personal power. Have the personal boundaries and self-respect to stop the nonsense. He's helping you to mind-fvck yourself to the point where it will become a real problem with your self-esteem and confidence.
“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” ~Joan Didion