Is he interested?

[Angel29]

I am part of a walking and social group. There is a guy there who has fancied me for months but he is shy and not approached me. In the end a mutual friend introduced us and told him I was interested which he was shocked and said he has always liked me.

This weekend was the first time we properly hung out on a walking holiday. We had such a laugh, he asked me lots about my life, said I should come walking more, that I should come for New Years and even said about a new bus from his home town which goes to mine. He danced with me on the dance floor and his mate said 'you do know he likes you as he never dances'. I caught him looking at me many times over the weekend and he smiled at me too.

The next day he got moody as his friend invited himself to have a lift back with me. At the end he said to me 'keep in touch' yet he didn't swap numbers. I heard since he left early to go on a second date with someone he met a few weeks before me. He seemed annoyed he had to leave early.

I feel gutted cos we had such a great time and yet he went back to go on date with someone else. People said don't take it personally and he only just got to know me this weekend and was probably kicking himself. Was he interested? Where do i go from here?

[Wakeup]

How did he reach you to hang out and go on this "walking holiday?"

[TheEvilJester]

You two really just met, and so far only went on one date, which you describe as a walking holiday. I assume by that you mean you two just went on a walk. So even that is not much of a date, but more just an initial get to know you date.

So, yeah, I'd agree you shouldn't take it personally that he went on a second date with some girl. At this stage, you and he have only gone on one date. With it only being a second date, the same could be said for him and that other girl. So, that doesn't imply exclusivity. It also doesn't mean he doesn't like you. Why would he not give that other girl a chance just because of one date with you? Who knows whether you and he will hit it off? Same goes for the other girl.

So, I'd say you proceed by showing you are still interested. Mind you, if things do start getting more serious with you, then at that point it would be good to have the exclusivity talk and you should both stop seeing others. Or, if he happens to become more serious with somebody else, then he should do the right thing and let you know rather than to string you along.

But, for now he's not serious with anybody, so why not keep giving it a try? Sure, it would be nice if he made the first move, but he sounds very shy, so he may just be too nervous to do so. No harm in you following up first. Again, just don't allow yourself to fall into the routine of ALWAYS being the one to make the first move. Eventually he needs to man up.

Good luck! I hope it goes well.