First love

[Smiche]

Well I am 19 years old foreign student in a Finnish university. My studies are conducted in English.
Around 3-4 months ago I met a girl in a game. Since then we've been chatting for quite some time. She is Finnish.
For 3 months we chatted for more than 100 000 lines(saved the skype history) and I know it's not quantity but quality that matters but we still did tell a lot of things to each other. We got close enough to share most of the things that go in our heads like thoughts, beliefs so on. The problem is she had a boyfriend at the time and she told me she has feelings for me after I first told her how I feel about her. We also used to speak on skype for around 200 hours + half of that time was with webcam. She broke with her boyfriend 3 weeks ago and she is still talking to him and he is acting like they didn't break up but she keeps reminding him that they did. The problem comes that I really want to meet her in real life because I think that will somehow help her be in a relationship with me. She says she wants to see me too and even she first gave the idea when we can meet. A few days later though she said that something came up(her parents were going to be at home) so I was disappointed but not because of her. So I started to look for another day to meet her and chose another date but a few days later she told me again that her dad would be at home. Looking at her work schedule and my exam schedule there aren't really a lot of days opened to meet and the ones that are free is when her parents are home. I really want to be in a relationship with her but she says that she is not sure if she can be. Language isn't much of a barrier because we understand each other quite well. She said it's not a problem but she is still worried cause of the fact that she wouldn't be speaking her native language with me. I just don't know what to do. Every time she speaks to her boyfriend I feel bad even if I know they're just friends now. Now she even said that we shouldn't plan when to meet because I might get disappointed if we can't. So for now just waiting until a free day for her comes. I've never had a relationship and I have no idea how things go but I know that I feel happy when I speak to her and I can be myself. I don't want to lose her but I don't want to be just friends with her(even the thought of it hurts). What should I do? Wait until she is ready to be in a relationship with me? We live 220km apart. Roughly 2-3 hours but that's not a problem for me.
If you need more information I'm ready to share.
I just need your help, thanks :|.

[pcmaster]

Thats quite of story you got yourself into. First of all I assume you have spend a lot of time in virtual world. This girl might be like a light in your dark world lol.
Think you should meet no matter her dad is at home or not. After that you would see much cleared where you stand. This girl is more experienced and if girl says she not sure if she can be in relationship then you better listen. She recently broke up with her BF and it might take a year to get over and be ready to make a new healthy relationship. Until then you might be there with her but she might not fall in love with you because she never really get over her BF and still think about him and still have feelings for the old guy. So you have to take things slow give her time and dont fall in love with her ahead of the time.
I understand that this all is new for you and you might never felt so much as you feeling now but. You have to calm down and take it easy.I wonder what is your passion. What else makes you feel alive besides this girl.

Theres really a lot of information I can share with you about relationships and girls. Hope this one will help you chill out a bit.

youtube.com/watch?v=GdnYedTpToA

[Smiche]

Well before you wrote this I told her this:
I want to tell you that I am ready to start a relationship and I know you aren't. I think you're the one so I will wait for you as long as it takes. At the end if you don't want me then I guess you're not that special one.

So yeh I guess I should find something else to bother my mind with most of the time. Is it still okay if I give her all the attention I can? Like it's not too much for her? She hasn't said anything and I asked a couple of times if I am annoying her by speaking with her everyday and she said that I don't and it's okay. Like yesterday we spoke for 4 hours with webcam on Skype. So I think meeting her wouldn't be much different than what we are doing already.
Thanks for the help. I'll try to hurt myself less and I hope I can take this as a grown up would.

[pcmaster]

I think its okay if you keep talking with her. As long as shes not ignoring you its alright. Who knows maybe at some point she becomes ready to give you what you want. But in your place I wont make this girl as my main focus. Because of the distance and because you cant be more than friends now I would look for other girls to talk with that are closer you know. In shopping malls, on the street, in school there are plenty of girls who would be grateful for that attention(especially from a foreigner) and some good interactions might come out of it. But of course its your choice. Maybe you dont see yet the girls that are around you because only one is in your mind.

Well good luck mate.

[Smiche]

She slept with her ex bf. She said she just wanted to be close to someone and they're still not together. She said that she just got used to it after 3 years so it's kinda hard to let the old habit go now. Or something like that.

[pcmaster]

Well its her fault. Sleeping with ex only makes it harder to move on. Besides if she told you she don't like you that much. Girls don't tell thinks like that to guys they like. Be careful don't become her emotional tampon.

You are really wasting your time with this girl unless you have nothing better to do.