Can you tell a lot about a guy by the friends they keep?

[billybookcase]

I have met a guy who seems very over-the-top in his fondness towards me - lots of flattery and big gestures etc. I'm not too sure about it tbh.

He was telling me about some of his friends. One guy, someone he used to work with but still sees occasionally socially, was apparently a massive ladies man. He was married with FIVE kids yet would regale his male friends about all the conquests he had. His wife eventually left him after he got together with his current, much younger partner, and they now have a child. He told me about another friend of his who recently got married. He let slip that again this relationship had had 'an overlap' with the man's previous girlfriend.

The guy I met, unsurprisingly, is telling me he would never do anything like this. That he cheated on a girlfriend once but that was a long time ago and would never do it again.

The thing is, as a woman, I could not be friends with someone who behaved like this. If a friend of mine was having it off with someone else whilst they were still in a relationship I think I would lose all respect for them. I was hoping for a man's opinion. Could you be friends with someone who cheats without being a cheater yourself?

[Wakeup]

Why ask for just a man's opinion? Cheaters come in both sexes.

As for the guy you're seeing: Why do the two of you even talk about his friends so much? What is the fascination with what they've done and are still doing?

It seems he is not good friends with these men but still I wonder why he would even tell you about them? Have you asked him why he talks about them so much behind their back?

[smackie9]

My husband and I both have idiot friends that can't keep their pants on. Don't worry about it.

[michelle23]

I generally think these types of men with low morals/integrity tend to stick together. I would be cautious if he spends a lot of time with them and all or most his friends are like this

All my bfs close friends are quite genuine and honest and he has a complete lack of respect for men who treat their partners badly.

[breathe123]

They're his friends, not him ~ he isn't accountable for their lives & choices. Be happy he isn't the same way.

[Wakeup]

Some people have brothers/sisters/family that can't keep their pants on but they don't disown them for it.