As I said, I'm fine in every way. My looks are ok (maybe not perfect, but I look good), my body is ok, I'm pretty thin... I could use some muscle maybe, but when I'm clothed, I am thin, yet with wide shoulders, not like a stick. I'm kinda tall (just over 6 feet). I dress good. I'm smart, I finished college, now work and have pretty good job, good salary and a good perspective. So I'm a good "catch" in every way. I'm 27 btw

Yet I can't get a gf. I've had only one in my life, for about two years, we broke up some time ago. Ok, I don't worry to much about what was before because I was fatter and much more confused.

But my problem now is, I don't know how/where to get a gf. Not at work, because 99% of the people there are guys, actually there is only one really pretty girl in entire company.

Maybe I could ask my friends to set me up, but I am not sure I want that, now I may seem like a jerk and shallow, because all of their girlfriends are not really pretty imo. And friends of their girlfriends are also not pretty. And I don't want a gf just to have a gf, I want gf that I would actually like. I know that may be shallow, but if there is no physical attraction, whats the point. After all, I am not desperate to have a gf so I won't settle for anything, but I would still like one (that I like, not just any girl).

So that only leaves meeting girls in clubs, which is pretty hard. They don't know me there, how do I let them know that I am a good catch, and not just some horny guy (ok I am also horny, but still better that most of the guys there . My other problem is I am not very open and talkative with unknown people, so I probably seem confused. I know if a girl would give me a chance, go out with me a few times, get to know me, at least 1 in 3 would like me. But currently, most of them won't even talk or dance, and the ones that do for some time, aren't interested for anything more.

Some time ago one girl actually gave me her number, I called her, we talked a little, but all in all she wasn't to interested. I'll call her once more in a few days, but I don't have high hopes, so some advice on how to increase my chances in a phone call would also be good


I hope you get what I wanted to say, I can explain something more if necessary