Hello, recently I have been devastated over my ex whom I broke up with over a text (although it was 24 texts long, it was still a text) a little over 2 years ago. We dated for almost 2 years, and I have never been so attached to someone in my life. My parents are very overprotective and religious, and he a very romantic and affectionate person. He simply wanted affection and to have it returned to him, but my parents would seriously punish me each time I did and it made my life very difficult. I had to make him out to be the bad guy to slightly lessen my punishment and my life was miserable by my parents hand. When I denied him affection for my own sake, he felt so slighted and would refuse to even talk to me. All I wanted was him and I felt like I wasn't giving him what he deserved. For this reason, I broke up with him. He tried to contact me after I sent the text on and off for 6 months and not once did I grace him with a reply; it was too hard. I told myself I didn't care about him and that my life would be so much better without him. As a freshman at a different high school than him, I could surely find someone better. But I was so wrong
A little over 2 years has passed. I'd think about him occasionally and then move my mind elsewhere. But my good friend has recently entered a relationship where the love shared seems so much like what we had. He is a close replica of him and it is haunting. Watching the two of them together, and especially the way he looks at and holds her, has broken me. I felt empowered and over him for so long but now I see what I've lost and I cannot beat the fact I let him slip through my fingers. I can't believe I severed the cord of love we shared. I weep every night and regret ending the relationship. I can't even enjoy music anymore; I only want to listen to songs that remind me of him. And bands he's liked. Songs he'd sent me. Songs that sound like what I'm going through. I clutch letters and stuffed animals he gave me and reread old conversations. I stalk all girls on his Facebook who seem suspicious of a relationship to me.
But, about a month ago, I contacted him for the first time in 2 years of not seeing or hearing him with a long apology letter. I told him I was wrong about everything and my pride was completely gone. I apologized, asked for forgiveness, and asked if he could ever find a way to be my friend again (he was undoubtedly the best friend I've ever had as well. I don't have a best friend anymore and haven't since he's been out of my life.) he replied with "alright. Let's get together soon and talk." I was overjoyed that he would even want to see me. A very casual and short conversation ensued and we decided upon meeting at Starbucks the next week. He got busy with college applications (he's also incredibly smart; he could get a full ride academic for Harvard if he so desired) and I said I understood. He then went to his hometown in New York for Christmas break. He even causally texted me during that time just to talk (oh and he and I shared a phone call before he left; we both were so glad to hear each other's voices and talked until we had to go- about an hour.)
Now, here we, a month after I apologized. I sent him a text yesterday asking him if he was back in town and he said he was. I asked him what time would work, and we went over various days. He spoke of going to a concert Thursday with a girl (words cannot describe my jealousy; it's our favorite band and although he said its just because thy both enjoy the music, it bothers me.) and he had track workouts (which the girl is a part of) Friday. So Sunday is when we've decided to meet. Starbucks. 3 pm. I am so nervous. I want to ask him his relationship history since we've been apart, but I don't feel I have a right to. I want him back so badly. I can't stop crying. I need some advice on what to say, what to do. I have come to the conclusion that I will always have love for him in my heart. I want him to be happy. But I don't want to be without him any longer. I hope he still has some feelings too. I hope and I pray. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks a ton for listening to my rant.
- Anna