I have a crush on a girl, but she's already in a long relationship.

[maso]

I met this girl at work, I think i have a huge crush on her. The thing is she is in a 7 years relationship. Talking to her makes me happy.

Fact: it's been years since i felt romantic to a girl, i just want to indulge myself, and give it a shot.

Problem: I don't want to be the bad guy who ruins a relationship.

How she feels: I'm slowly giving her hint that i like her, but it seems she see's me as a friend only.

What i want to do: I just want to know her more, and let her know how i feel, and see where this will lead me.

My plan: This coming valentines i want to give her flower (Not that extravagant, maybe a single rose not a bouquet) and an anonymous note, just give her a little hint that it's from me.

Should i still go for it? what do you think she will feel and think about me? Need some advice. especially to a girl stand point. Thanks

[basilandthyme]

We can't predict how she will feel. She could be absolutely appalled that someone would be so low as to try to steal her away from her partner. Or she could be secretly unsatisfied and wanting an affair. Or, she may think that someone else sent the flowers and have no idea that they were from you.

All in all, it's a very bad idea.

[faefae]

Personally I would say go for it... yes there is the chance it will be unwelcome but if so at least you will know one way or another. . And maybe she will appreciate the gesture even if not interested in anything, you could always go with yellow flowers and if its looking like going badly use the fall back of "friendly gesture, I felt like you needed reassurance of good in the world".. bcoz you haven't said anything about how she acts towards you or what her situation involves its hard to say.. if there's problems with her current relationship it could help her reevaluate and move on...

[Wakeup]

Has she given you any indication that she want you to be so intrusive to give her flowers on a holiday that is reserved for lovers?

Get a grip. FFS.

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Personally I would say go for it... yes there is the chance it will be unwelcome but if so at least you will know one way or another. . And maybe she will appreciate the gesture even if not interested in anything, you could always go with yellow flowers and if its looking like going badly use the fall back of "friendly gesture, I felt like you needed reassurance of good in the world".. bcoz you haven't said anything about how she acts towards you or what her situation involves its hard to say.. if there's problems with her current relationship it could help her reevaluate and move on...

Op gives us lots of detail on how HE feels but ZERO information on how she feels or how she receives his "need to get to know her" Its dangerous and It's also ridiculous to encourage him to "go for it" when there is NO indication if she even feels the same. His actions could get him fired for inappropriate and CREEPY interaction with a fellow employee not to mention Harassment charges. Jeezus.

It is inappropriate and dysfunctional to do what he wants to do. The world does not revolve around him or you so don't think that imposing yourself in someone elses relationship by doing things that you have not had any encouragement to be doing would be well accepted. It's stuff like that that would creep a girl totally out.

All in all, it's a very bad idea.

To say the least!

[lissa]

Absolutely a terrible idea. She is in a long term relationship and she is your coworker. Just because you feel strong feelings does not mean you should act on them.