In love with best friend?

[Elliot99]

I have been in a relationship with my current girlfriend for two years now and I have known her for about three years. I cherish both her and our relationship as a whole very much. She is the first person I've felt completely comfortable with despite extreme social-anxiety that has prohibited me from ever really forming a close bond with a person and she has supported me through some of the toughest times in my life. Lately, however, things have turned onto a confusing path. I have never been a person who condones cheating, and I still don't condone it. But I've began noticing that I have some unexplainable feelings in regards to my best friend. I've known my best friend for about two years now, and we've always been very close. She was the second person I have ever truly bonded with. She just contains this aura that makes me feel whole as a person and she displays her high regards to me very well. In the past, my girlfriend and her were never very close, but as of late they have become very close as well.

What makes things truly complicated is that lately I've noticed that I think my feelings towards my best friend stretches more than a friend sort of thing. I think there is a very high chance that I am actually in love with her. I often find myself fantasizing about her and I together, and being able to tell her I love her. There are times where I talk to her and we express our caring towards one another and I just get this feeling inside of me that is so overwhelming. But I love my girlfriend as well. More than I can put into words. I can't explain all of this extremely well because I'm highly confused about it and have never admitted this beyond my own personal thoughts. I don't know what to do and I feel like a terrible person because of it, so I am looking for some guidance. Do I continue keeping it to myself and waiting for it to pass? What should I do? Some advice would be extremely helpful to me right now.

[smackie9]

Threesome???

[woody]

Ok well in a more serious mode than ^^ and uh, (tee hee, you naughty happy camper you) but to the O.P,

Often one or both persons in a couple situation at some stage of their relationship develop variable mild likings of others. A mild crush if you will. I believe these things are natural. Of course we're going to find other people cool and interesting. What matter here in your situation is how far are the fantasies going? If they have become intimate, you may be in trouble. If this is the case, you need to re assess everything. Step back and look in. Look at your lady, feel the depth of love towards her and try to imagine your life without her in it. If you cannot do this then your in love with her.
Then, look at the female friend, do the same.

Bottom line is, what ever you decide to do, you must be forthright and honest to all involved. Chances are your gf is sensing something. It is not a fun position to be in when your man is crushing on a female friend. You must be fair to her.
Sounds like you've got some re evaluating to do; but don't beat yourself up for finding another interesting. What you do about it will be the test of your character.