I dont know If I should ask the guy out!

[tatiana]

So ok, I met this guy like 4 months ago on a chatonline site. He's 18 and I'm 16. He is a really funny guy who makes me laugh everyday, I can speak to him without getting worried if it was the rigth thing to say, he is going to study economy ( A REALLY SMART GUY WHOM I CAN TALK TO ABOUT SMART STUFF AND GAH I JUST LOVE THAT) He says he has a jinx about red-heads, like only them give him attention! But sooo not true.
The thing is that when he was younger he was like really fat and now has a complex or something and he still thinks he is fat (which he is not cause he is just fine) and I've gave him hints to ask me out or just simplly have a coffe as friends but he doesnt! So I dont know if I should ask him out or not, because if I do and he says no I would have ****ed up this thing we've got going on and I love that, and If he says yes I;m afraid he wont like me or something, and I;m just being paranoid at this point!

[smackie9]

He has self image problems so of course he's going to lack confidence in himself. Yes ask him out. If he says no oh well, rejection is just part of life.

[Wakeup]

Have you face timed with this dude? If not, I suggest you do that before you meet him and that you have him meet you at your home before meeting him anywhere else. At 16 you should be including your parents in on who you are chatting up from the internet. For all you know (if you haven't cam-ed face to face with him) he's a 50 year old perv with a bunch of young teens stored in the floor of his basement.

[tatiana]

Have you face timed with this dude? If not, I suggest you do that before you meet him and that you have him meet you at your home before meeting him anywhere else. At 16 you should be including your parents in on who you are chatting up from the internet. For all you know (if you haven't cam-ed face to face with him) he's a 50 year old perv with a bunch of young teens stored in the floor of his basement.

I didnt face time with him, my parents know all about him and they are ok with it. I didnt face time but we added each other on snapchat so I know for sure he is not 50 thanks G!

[Wakeup]

Snapchat doesn't give you REAL time interaction does it? (not sure). Like you're not videoing one another in real time like Skype or facetime, correct?

If its just photos and videos that he sends you then they could be of anyone. However, that's besides the point.

I will say that I don't believe you that your parents are "okay" with you meeting a stranger from the internet without them meeting him first. If they are indeed okay with that then I question their better judgement.

Why don't you invite him to come to your house and have dinner with you and your parents and lets see what he has to say about that. You can't waste your life online "chatting" with someone you've never actually seen face to face. That is just a huge waste of your dating years and a good way for you to become anti-social or socially awkward (like he appears to be).

Don't kid yourself. I wouldn't be a bit surprised if he's still the fat kid he says he's grown out of but you'll NEVER really know until you cam with him or you meet him in a safe place for your own protection.

[Wakeup]

Adding: Have you video chatted with him on snap chat (if it's possible to do) and if you haven't, why not?

[bulrush]

Ask him out. I don't date lazy girls who expect me to do all the work.