Fight or Give up, 4-year relationship

[yhuls26]

Hello. This has been my confusion for months now. I am in a 4 year relationship with a good man. We were happy way back college. But things changed. I don't know if I should stay or leave. He's getting a vocational course and I am supporting him financially. My problem is i don't see any characteristics of a husband material in him. He is very dependent. I think its my fault also. I let him depend on me in all things. I didn't realize the effect in the future. Now, i am confused. I don't want to stay and regret. Also, his attitude changed because he hasn't found job for too long. I support him now because he needs me now. I am starting to think if what will be the scenario in the future. Pls help me. I need an advice. Thanks.

[smackie9]

So what if the roles were turned around and he was the one supporting you so you could get an education that will later give you a stable career and be better off financially??

Just tell him to get a flippin job and work with him to get one. And then start telling him things are gonna change simple as that....or you are out.

[basilandthyme]

I assume you're living together. If you're supporting him financially, how does he contribute to the household? Is he the perfect househusband or is he completely unmotivated?

[jenniferaniston]

Talk to him about your problem and you both together should find out the solution of this problem.