Getting mad if you turn him down may not be physical force, but he's certainly putting you under emotional duress!
Each individual thing you've written about could easily contribute to why you don't want sex. But add all of them together and you've got a recipe for libido disaster. The lack of time you have for yourself, your isolation, your husband's disinterest in you, his control of you, the emotional duress, having a young family. You're ticking all the boxes.
I highly recommend this book to you [URL="http://drrosieking.com.au/books/where-did-my-libido-go-practical-advice-for-women-with-low-desire/"]Where did my libido go?[/URL] by Dr Rosie King. I think you will relate to a lot of her discussions regarding situational libido loss.
But more importantly, pick up the phone and call a domestic abuse hotline. He may not be physically abusing you, but the isolation he enforces on you is very much emotionally abusive. This abuse must addressed immediately.
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Last edited by basilandthyme; 11-03-15 at 01:10 PM.
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