Originally Posted by
nickgroce
im in love with my friend. she knows it and we dated for a bit but she said that it wouldnt lead to anywhere because she wants to travel the world and i dont. which is true
she went to oklahoma for a job interview monday. i got drunk friday and told her i hope she moved down there. she said why and i said i dont know i just hope you do. she said my opinon wouldnt affect her decision and got snotty which i understood
i then told her the next morning after i sobered up that i just feel like she would regret taking the opportunity to move down there. she said she didnt think i would know what she would regret
then i said it was just my opinion and she said i didnt ask for your opinion
she said today that she wasnt moving down there
i told her im glad shes staying
she said ..thats a change of heart since you wanted me gone
i said ..i didnt truly want you gone. i was excited for you and happy for the chance you were getting but i truly wanted you to stay. i hope you understand
she said yea i do
do you think i pushed her away?
She was never yours so I doubt you pushed her anywhere. She sounds like she has a mind of her own and wouldn't let anything you say or do make her come to ANY conclusions one way or the other.
You waste your good dating years crushing on your "friend" instead of distancing yourself from her so you can be open enough in heart and mind to find someone that actually cares for you like you care for her.
“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” ~Joan Didion