need some advice

[lei_faith]

My ex bf and i broke up after 5 yrs in our relationship. He said that im a jelous person and have some character issues. I admit i've been needy and clingy and i am willing to change. He said that he only love me as a friend now and there are no 3rd party involve. he said that he doesnt want to be in a relationship right now because of his work and said its not that i am a burden but he is not into it. he promised that if ever he is ready to start a family and i am still single and available, i'll be the first one that he will propose and want to marry. I told him that i will be left waiting and hanging And its not helping me to move on. He said i could just ignore what he said. And cried when i told him that i will cut all my connections with him including his family. i asked him why is he crying and said we started as friends to bf-gf and it will be a waste if we will end up as strangers. i agreed to his idea because he is already crying . He said that my picture is still on his wallet.

What should I do now? I dont know if I should wait. I still love him.
should i stay as his friend?

[lovebroken]

If it hurts you to remain friends with him, then don't punish yourself any further is my advice, it just isn't worth in the long run.

[TheEvilJester]

He is right about one thing. It honestly would be a shame for you two to be friends for so long only to become strangers......

But that doesn't change the fact that it may be the right thing to do. Sometimes the hardest thing to do in life is also the right thing. It stinks, but sadly that is life sometimes. If it hurts you too much to still be around him as just a friend, then you need to move on. If you feel that remaining friends with him might cause you to want to just wait around for him hoping he will take you back, then you do need to let him go. You need to move on, learn from your mistakes, learn from his mistakes, and grow as a solo person. Hopefully you can then be better equipped to have a relationship in the future.

Who knows? Maybe fate will some day bring you back together. You just can't put your life on hold waiting for that to happen. You may be holding yourself back from finding the person you really are supposed to be with. At the very least, you will be holding yourself back from growing into the wonderful person that you are capable of becoming.

If you truly do feel there are things you did to mess up the relationship, then you should definitely take advantage of this time to learn and grow and improve yourself. Trust me, even the best of us have times where we do/act in ways that don't make us proud. We are never a finished product as human beings. We are always a work in progress, and it is always great to keep trying to grow as a person.

Good luck to you. I hope you find everything you are looking for, whether it winds up being with this fella or perhaps somebody else some day.